How do you fall out of love with someone, you considered as love of your life?

It would be two years soon i started to go out with one guy. But, for last 10 months, we have been separated, havent seen each other, just were in daily touch over the phone. now he stopped, and im really down. Im sick of feeling like that. How did you people there fell out of love when you loved someone really too much? I know the easiest thing would be to get someone new, just to get mind of the guy, but that is the problem. in last year, i havent met even one guy i would like or would be interested to get to know. I hate them all and to think, that someone would want to ask me out, is making me sick. i still grieve for the one, but it is over and i want to get over it. but how do i do that? it has been year and i dont feel less in love!!! what do i do, i dont want to be depressed anymore!!!How do you fall out of love with someone, you considered as love of your life?
To begin with-


';no person is ever worth your tears, and the one who is won't make you cry.';





First of all look at yourself, not in a mirror, but inside you. You feel hurt, and are feeling low 'coz a person has stopped showing love to yourself. It always happens with us. The thing that'll not let you feel weaker, and 'll survive you is your own love and respect for yourself. Try it out, it's the most dependable love. Take the very best care of yourself, and love yourself. Other persons/things do change, and don't let the change overpower you.How do you fall out of love with someone, you considered as love of your life?
Get your self a copy of a book called woman who love too much....read it and learn....to love yourself..value yourself and the combined personality traits of a man and woman that feels like soul mate but actually......well read the book and you will get over it....
Well from the other person's perspective, I'm one of those that you can classify as fast to fall in love, and easy to fall out of love too. I dont know maybe its just people's personality or how some people saw how some are treated by their loved ones. If I find that the other person is not capable of loving me the way i love them, i just slowly walk away.
I can only share my own experience. The love of my life took me years to get over. For the first few years I was in a rage about him, because he mistreated me. Then I went through a phase of grieving that lasted about 4-6 months. Once I was done raging and grieving, I didn't obsess about him, but I still thought about him now and again. The last phase lasted about 9 years. And then I thought still less about him, and one day I realized not only that I had finally fallen out of love with him, but that I didn't even consider him the love of my life anymore. I haven't met the love of my life. Your process may not take as long as mine, but if you're willing to experience all your feelings fully and move through them, the day will come when you will be over him.
Chances are very slim that you will feel better simply by getting together with a new guy. That is not really moving on so much as glossing over the problem/feelings. It will take time! And when a relationship has been really deep and meaningful, you may never entirely ';get over'; it. Don't try to just forget about what happened, or deny the relationship that was. Doing that will probably only make things worse in the end.





Although it is really tough to do, I think you have to just wait for a bit, and let things come round in their own time. I feel bad that this time is so tough for you, but don't give up, and keep focused on doing the things that make you truly happy. Keeping in mind what I said about not denying the relationship, do keep your options open, and be receptive to positive changes. Don't sabotage your happiness.





Take care, and best wishes. :-)
I know how you feel. But, you have to realize that the love of your life is really just the love of right now. You have to have experiences to grow and this experience will help you grow. In time you'll grow a little more and you'll see how silly it was that you wasted a moment thinking about him, pondering your feelings. There are really so many people that are so interesting if you'd just let that one go and allow yourself to just meet and talk to other people. You need to give yourself a date - this Friday and after that, you'll stop thinking about him. You have to just decide that your time is too valuable to pine for someone who is not there. Your too important to allow someone to take up that much space in your head and your heart. And, if anyone asks you out...you'll go - just for experience sake. I know this sounds hard but you have to sortof put your foot down with yourself and just say - this is what I'm doing and then stick to it. Good Luck and don't wait around for someone or let someone occupy that much of you. You seem too passionate to waste it on just one person who is not going to give back to you.
The question is how can you feel love if its not reciprocated?


DO NOT REBOUND, love is a milestone, there also has to be respect and caring.
I know it doesn't seem to go away with time...but thats all you have. You dont have to start falling in love with any other guys..or start dating again if you dont want to... what you must do, however, is do anything in your power to not see this guy that you are in love with..not talk to him, not speak to him, not hear of him..nothing. keeping yourself occupied and separating yourself from him mentally will allow you to break the emotional grip you have on the love he's given up. and i know it hurts, but the only way is to separate yourself as much as possible. allow yourself to feel the way you feel about others--dont wanna go out? thats fine. wait till you do. dont worry, it may seem endless...but it wont last forever. give it time.
I believe that being ';in love'; with someone is a mere illusion. You're seeing things that you want to see in that person, but isn't really real. That's why people fall ';out of love';. So, I can't necessarily answer your question in regards to that. You have to see it for yourself.





I think the reason for you lacking any interest in others is due to the fact that you've been accustomed to what you use to have, which is no longer there. You're not yet use to what is different from the previous guy. You'll have your standards and expectations from other people...based on this individual. Just know that you should remain open-minded and not compare others to this guy. That should make meeting other people/getting over him a whole lot easier.
OMG i know how ur feeling, last summer i had to end things with my bf cuz he was treating me like **** and he was doing **** behind my back...and it was killing me...even after we broke up...thinking of myself with other guys just made me sick. I dont think its so much falling out of love...i dont knwo what it is...but i made up my mind that i couldnt take it anymore and dumped him. and that was it...he wanted to get back and i just said no....i still loved him but the pain wasnt worth it... u may love him but u gotta love urself more i think. i stopped being in love with him...and then i stopped wanting to be with him...cuz i knew i couldnt...i couldnt take the pain anymore and being with someone...like that just wasnt an option. u cant force him out of ur mind...u have to make the decision that its over, and done. and thats just the way it is.