and they are completely out of your life, but still in your head: Is it abnormal to accidentally seek other people like them, and to look for them in someone else? It seems like this is a bit abusive toward the surrogate lover. Do you have to wait several years and take brain damaging drugs; forget the person, then start from scratch to have a normal relationship? If so: Would not the pathetic anti social morning and drug abuse stray you further away from mutual love than the one sided affair. Obviously I'm not talking about sex, so; there is no such thing, and emotions have at least been allowed to flow, and I am asking if allowing someone to fall in love with you who you do not love is abusive. Maybe I'm saying it is, and am asking why someone would do it, and how someone would properly recuperate from it without abusing themselves or someone else.When you love someone who no longer loves you, or never did?
Time heals. Seems bad now, but I went through some too. In time it will get better.
I personally think you don't have to forget the person in order to get rid of your aching. Unfortunately it ended up that she couldn't see me anymore. When you love someone who no longer loves you, or never did?
It is called self-controll, human nature not to want to hurt another person, love for your fellow man or woman not to inflick heartache on another person. If you need drugs to be human then that may be why you cant have a normal relationship.
Yes it is very abusive to pretend to have feelings for another person that you dont have!!!
you should just take some time for yourself and concentrate on you, and before you realize it you will no longer think or try to find that person in someone else. Do things you like and enjoy!!!! someone else will come your way .
its not uncommon, but is bad for your psychiatric health.
just move on and try to find someone that loves you the same way you love them.
i say move on
Yes, that can happen. Yes, it is unfair to the other person.
The best thing a person can do for themselves is to first find the love that one seeks from others within oneself. If you are completely self loving and self maintaining and love is not a carrot for you to grab after, then the love that you choose will be healthy.
There is a really good book called the ';Mastery of Love'; by Don Miguel Ruiz. In it he makes an analogy about love. I recommend it as it is at the least an interesting read.
The premise of one chapter is along these lines. If you are literally starving and someone comes along and says. ';Hey, I have this pizza and all you have to do to eat it is to do what I say'; Now that person can control you in all sorts of ways because you need food and you will do anything to get it.
However, if you have your own kitchen and you make beautiful food everyday and share it with friends. In fact, anyone who comes to you hungry never leaves your presence being hungry. At this point, no one can ever come to you and bribe, control or abuse you with something you already have in abundance. You don't need them for food. You have plenty to share. Substitute love for food and you get the idea.
Love is like that. The minute you are truly full of joy and love all by your lonesome, magic things happen. At the very least, no one will ever be able to hurt you or control you with the most powerful emotion we all feel.
Good luck. It sounds like you are having some pain. I hope you see your way through it.
i fell in love with my best friend but he didnt feel the same way. i dont think it was his fault that i fell in love with him, he was just being himself.
and i did accidentally seek other people like him. i realized by doing that, i was actually avoiding potential partners. no 2 people are the same and i doubt you will ever find someone like this girl. keep your eyes open for anyone you may like, even if they're different than this girl. your heart will make the decision of who you like and dont like.
i finally gave up on my best friend and found someone who was a better fit for me than my best friend. ive been with him for 2 years and would never leave him for my best friend.
Friday, August 20, 2010
Is really so difficult to fall in love?
Hello everybody.. I’m an 18-years old-girl, I live in a very small town lost somewhere in the worst European country, and maybe the worst country in the whole world.. I was born and I’m living in Italy -.-‘’ a horrible place with disgusting people, I hate this shitty hell and I’ll leave it and move to London as soon as I finish the High School next July.
I’ve got a lot of problems, I’ve been getting a terrible loneliness under my skin since I was 10, I’ve never been loved by anyone (starting with my parents) and I’ve never loved someone, I’ve never had a real friend, nor a boyfriend or a girlfriend (I mean, someone to fall in love with, not just someone to have sex with.. also because idk why but people here are all asexual @.@ I can have sex with someone only when I go in another country, don’t ask me the reason of this, it’s one of the things that are driving me crazy @.@).. I suffered sexual harassment when I was 10 and since then I suffered sexual trauma for about 5 years. I’ve been left alone by my parents, I suffered that hell all by myself, thinking people didn’t like me because I was wrong, I was guilty, I was disgusting. This lasted 5 years, and when I was 15 things slowly started to change, I got out of my trauma, started to have some kind of friends and finally surpassed my sex phobia. I felt like I was the queen of the universe for about two months, it was pure happiness.. but after that short period I realized things were not really changed. I was deeply changed, but people were still avoiding me, my “friends” were insincere and fake, no one feeling something for me. I thought I was too fat, and so too ugly (and actually it was true) to be loved by someone, so I went on diet and I lost almost 44 pounds in 2 years time, I tried to adopt different attitudes with people, trying to understand which was the right one, which one people would like. But no one has ever liked me (and I’ve never liked someone too, people here are all uninteresting, insignificant, close-minded and I’ve never had a feeling for someone), and this is still happening. It’s like I’m invisible, people don’t see me, I can’t start talking to someone, it’s like I really don’t exist. People here are all very antisocial, they have their provincial mentality and no interests, they’re not interested in travelling, knowing people, have experiences and so on, and this is actually a reason why it’s hard to find friends for me, and to fall in love. But this is not the only reason, and I’m afraid I’ve got something wrong inside me, I’m afraid things won’t change even when I’ll be in London or wherever else in the world.. I’ve never fallen in love (just a one-week crush last summer *.*)and I’m afraid of this, I’m afraid this will never happen, I’m afraid of I don’t clearly know what. How can I understand why am I wrong, what’s the wrong with me, why I can’t be someone’s Love Of My Life? Falling in love seems to be the easiest thing in world, it’s in every song, in every poem, in everyone’s eyes, but it doesn’t exist for me.. is really so difficult to fall in love? ):
Sorry for my pitiful English, and thank you for your answers (:Is really so difficult to fall in love?
Falling in love is one of those things that you can neither stop, nor control. It just happens, and when it does happen you will know it. I'm sorry that you suffered sexual harassment as such a young age, and had to go through that all. But when you fall in love, you will know it and you wont know when it will happen but it will. It's even harder to fall out of love once your in it. Just be your own person and learn to be comfortable in your own skin. If something doesn't suit you then change it, and if you want something done you must do it. Become the person you want to be, and try to build up a very very steady confidence. It will help you with a lot of things. And only after you've accepted everything about yourself and contoured yourself to what you want to be, then you can truly live your life and fall in love.Is really so difficult to fall in love?
You have to like yourself before you can expect anyone else to like you. Find things about yourself you love and focus on them. Your attitude and confidence will change. It will be easy to find love and friends.
okay you dont know when you fall in love, it just happens...
Um, there are more fish in the sea.....just grab a rod?
OH MY GOD!
you're italian, 18 years old and you speak English like that!??
you deserve a meddle that's excellent!
it just happens later for some people but... 18 is still young dating wise you have decades ahead of you don't worry about it!
you can stay with me in London when you're ready ;)
falling in love...is not easy and its not hard...all that has to happen is you meet someone one day or night, and you can tell that your attracted to eachother....but the huge part is thers more, you get to know eachother,,,,the good and the bad, help eachother smile more, laugh more, cry less...frienship blooms, and one day you realize, i cant imagine ever being without this person in your life---
alot of people think they are in love but there not...love is pure and its a gift. if you want to find love it Will happen, but you must have patience.
life is full of ups and downs. some people have had very sheltered lucky lives
others have gone through hell
we are all human
and we are survivors-we learn to cope and become stronger because we are the future!
everyone wants to be loved
but not everyone is patient
patience is a virtue
peace and love
godbless%26lt;3
Falling in love is not difficult. What IS difficult is finding the right one to be in love with. It's hard to explain, but when you are in love, you just know! It's just an unexplainable feeling. I believe there is someone out there for everyone. You just need to be patient!ltd music myspace
I’ve got a lot of problems, I’ve been getting a terrible loneliness under my skin since I was 10, I’ve never been loved by anyone (starting with my parents) and I’ve never loved someone, I’ve never had a real friend, nor a boyfriend or a girlfriend (I mean, someone to fall in love with, not just someone to have sex with.. also because idk why but people here are all asexual @.@ I can have sex with someone only when I go in another country, don’t ask me the reason of this, it’s one of the things that are driving me crazy @.@).. I suffered sexual harassment when I was 10 and since then I suffered sexual trauma for about 5 years. I’ve been left alone by my parents, I suffered that hell all by myself, thinking people didn’t like me because I was wrong, I was guilty, I was disgusting. This lasted 5 years, and when I was 15 things slowly started to change, I got out of my trauma, started to have some kind of friends and finally surpassed my sex phobia. I felt like I was the queen of the universe for about two months, it was pure happiness.. but after that short period I realized things were not really changed. I was deeply changed, but people were still avoiding me, my “friends” were insincere and fake, no one feeling something for me. I thought I was too fat, and so too ugly (and actually it was true) to be loved by someone, so I went on diet and I lost almost 44 pounds in 2 years time, I tried to adopt different attitudes with people, trying to understand which was the right one, which one people would like. But no one has ever liked me (and I’ve never liked someone too, people here are all uninteresting, insignificant, close-minded and I’ve never had a feeling for someone), and this is still happening. It’s like I’m invisible, people don’t see me, I can’t start talking to someone, it’s like I really don’t exist. People here are all very antisocial, they have their provincial mentality and no interests, they’re not interested in travelling, knowing people, have experiences and so on, and this is actually a reason why it’s hard to find friends for me, and to fall in love. But this is not the only reason, and I’m afraid I’ve got something wrong inside me, I’m afraid things won’t change even when I’ll be in London or wherever else in the world.. I’ve never fallen in love (just a one-week crush last summer *.*)and I’m afraid of this, I’m afraid this will never happen, I’m afraid of I don’t clearly know what. How can I understand why am I wrong, what’s the wrong with me, why I can’t be someone’s Love Of My Life? Falling in love seems to be the easiest thing in world, it’s in every song, in every poem, in everyone’s eyes, but it doesn’t exist for me.. is really so difficult to fall in love? ):
Sorry for my pitiful English, and thank you for your answers (:Is really so difficult to fall in love?
Falling in love is one of those things that you can neither stop, nor control. It just happens, and when it does happen you will know it. I'm sorry that you suffered sexual harassment as such a young age, and had to go through that all. But when you fall in love, you will know it and you wont know when it will happen but it will. It's even harder to fall out of love once your in it. Just be your own person and learn to be comfortable in your own skin. If something doesn't suit you then change it, and if you want something done you must do it. Become the person you want to be, and try to build up a very very steady confidence. It will help you with a lot of things. And only after you've accepted everything about yourself and contoured yourself to what you want to be, then you can truly live your life and fall in love.Is really so difficult to fall in love?
You have to like yourself before you can expect anyone else to like you. Find things about yourself you love and focus on them. Your attitude and confidence will change. It will be easy to find love and friends.
okay you dont know when you fall in love, it just happens...
Um, there are more fish in the sea.....just grab a rod?
OH MY GOD!
you're italian, 18 years old and you speak English like that!??
you deserve a meddle that's excellent!
it just happens later for some people but... 18 is still young dating wise you have decades ahead of you don't worry about it!
you can stay with me in London when you're ready ;)
falling in love...is not easy and its not hard...all that has to happen is you meet someone one day or night, and you can tell that your attracted to eachother....but the huge part is thers more, you get to know eachother,,,,the good and the bad, help eachother smile more, laugh more, cry less...frienship blooms, and one day you realize, i cant imagine ever being without this person in your life---
alot of people think they are in love but there not...love is pure and its a gift. if you want to find love it Will happen, but you must have patience.
life is full of ups and downs. some people have had very sheltered lucky lives
others have gone through hell
we are all human
and we are survivors-we learn to cope and become stronger because we are the future!
everyone wants to be loved
but not everyone is patient
patience is a virtue
peace and love
godbless%26lt;3
Falling in love is not difficult. What IS difficult is finding the right one to be in love with. It's hard to explain, but when you are in love, you just know! It's just an unexplainable feeling. I believe there is someone out there for everyone. You just need to be patient!
Have you ever fallen out of love with someone? How do you tell yor parnter that ur attracted to someone else?
Most couples fall out of love with their first few (or many) partners until they are older, and have had the time to meet someone right and at the right time.
It's a common thing, and let me tell you - there is no point in dragging a relationship out when you're not happy.
Get with your partner and tell him/her that you're not happy anymore and need to move on. If they ask if you're interested in someone else, then it's up to you whether or not you want to tell them. It might be wise to be completely honest, but not too graphic about it.
Just don't make the same mistake my brother did - he told his ex he wasn't happy and just wanted to be single. Then started seeing another girl soon after. His ex found out, realised he lied, and it knocked her confidence badly.
Try and end it nice and neat, rather than messy and full of lies.
Good luck!Have you ever fallen out of love with someone? How do you tell yor parnter that ur attracted to someone else?
Yes I've fallen out of love before, and DON'T tell your partner that you like somebody else! Just break up with them nicely, then wait a while and go out with the other person!!!Have you ever fallen out of love with someone? How do you tell yor parnter that ur attracted to someone else?
I would tell my partner that I would like to take a break and see what else is out there. Because it would be better to hurt his or her feelings NOW, than to cheat on them and make it worse in the end. The longer you stay in a relationship you don't want to be in, the worse off it will be in the end. Have that talk as soon as you find the right moment.
Yes I have. Of course, it was because he was abusive and I could not take it anymore but if you feel that you have fallen out of love you need to let that person know. I mean true love is not that love feeling where you feel butterflies, it is way after that and after you have put so much time and effort into it. If you feel that you can not deal with it anymore, you must let your partner know. The best way to let them know is first by letting them know that you want the best for them and it is not fair that you are not feeling the same as they are. They will respect you more if you are honest with them.
It's a common thing, and let me tell you - there is no point in dragging a relationship out when you're not happy.
Get with your partner and tell him/her that you're not happy anymore and need to move on. If they ask if you're interested in someone else, then it's up to you whether or not you want to tell them. It might be wise to be completely honest, but not too graphic about it.
Just don't make the same mistake my brother did - he told his ex he wasn't happy and just wanted to be single. Then started seeing another girl soon after. His ex found out, realised he lied, and it knocked her confidence badly.
Try and end it nice and neat, rather than messy and full of lies.
Good luck!Have you ever fallen out of love with someone? How do you tell yor parnter that ur attracted to someone else?
Yes I've fallen out of love before, and DON'T tell your partner that you like somebody else! Just break up with them nicely, then wait a while and go out with the other person!!!Have you ever fallen out of love with someone? How do you tell yor parnter that ur attracted to someone else?
I would tell my partner that I would like to take a break and see what else is out there. Because it would be better to hurt his or her feelings NOW, than to cheat on them and make it worse in the end. The longer you stay in a relationship you don't want to be in, the worse off it will be in the end. Have that talk as soon as you find the right moment.
Yes I have. Of course, it was because he was abusive and I could not take it anymore but if you feel that you have fallen out of love you need to let that person know. I mean true love is not that love feeling where you feel butterflies, it is way after that and after you have put so much time and effort into it. If you feel that you can not deal with it anymore, you must let your partner know. The best way to let them know is first by letting them know that you want the best for them and it is not fair that you are not feeling the same as they are. They will respect you more if you are honest with them.
How is it easy to fall out of love?
They say falling in love is easy but falling out of love is one of the hardest things to do..i agree personally. my ex told me when he dumped me, that he fell out of love with me. But two days before he dumped me he told me he loved me with all his heart but i could feel he was lying. He said he was just randomly thinking to himself that he didnt think he was in love with me anymore because he didnt have the desire to see me that day,and we argued too much. i know it was probably just another girl involved also so i didnt count that out im not naive. Everyone argues! EVERYONE so i think thats just a dumb excuse to fall out of love with someone. I agree that if you can fall out of love that easily, you were never in love in the first place.How is it easy to fall out of love?
Something that most people misunderstand about love, is that it isn't something that you fall in and out of. It is something that you work at. Not that it's hard all the time. In fact, the best love is easy to do. But it's just that, it is something that you do. Love is a verb. You don't fall out of love with someone, you Stop loving them. You stop putting any effort into the relationship. You think more about yourself than the one that you 'love'. It's not just a switch that you turn on and off, it's something that you have to do.How is it easy to fall out of love?
Falling out of love is not easy. I personally just broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years, and it was teh hardest thing I have ever done. I do still love him, but I think that we just cant fit good together. We fight ALOT, and we have to much taht we disagree on. Perhaps your boyfriend (ex) is in teh same boat? Maybe he does care but he feels like in the long run things would just end badly.
Things will get better though, or at least so Im told %26lt;3
It's pretty godamn easy if you're someone like me who gets uninterested easily. It's not a bad thing, you can't help it. I'd say it's equally easy to fall in and out of it, but one day you find that special person who you fall for as easy as that.
falling in love isn't easy, its thrilling-not easy! falling out of love is very very easy
'; i could feel he was lying';
You went with your gut, which is almost always the right way to go.
I disagree. I think falling in love is hard and falling out of love is easy...
if u have to ask yourself, ';am i in love?'; then ur not.
most people confuse love with lust.. im sure that's what he did however sometimes people think they are in love then as they get to know the true you find out that they are in for more then they bargained for i have fallen out of love before but after years of abuse one can expect that
its not easy to fall out of love at all when people change your love slowly starts fading away the next thing you know your not in love with them however if you were or are in a serious relationship with this person you will always think about them and wonder what if i still have feelings for him/her chances are your just lonely or horny
Something that most people misunderstand about love, is that it isn't something that you fall in and out of. It is something that you work at. Not that it's hard all the time. In fact, the best love is easy to do. But it's just that, it is something that you do. Love is a verb. You don't fall out of love with someone, you Stop loving them. You stop putting any effort into the relationship. You think more about yourself than the one that you 'love'. It's not just a switch that you turn on and off, it's something that you have to do.How is it easy to fall out of love?
Falling out of love is not easy. I personally just broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years, and it was teh hardest thing I have ever done. I do still love him, but I think that we just cant fit good together. We fight ALOT, and we have to much taht we disagree on. Perhaps your boyfriend (ex) is in teh same boat? Maybe he does care but he feels like in the long run things would just end badly.
Things will get better though, or at least so Im told %26lt;3
It's pretty godamn easy if you're someone like me who gets uninterested easily. It's not a bad thing, you can't help it. I'd say it's equally easy to fall in and out of it, but one day you find that special person who you fall for as easy as that.
falling in love isn't easy, its thrilling-not easy! falling out of love is very very easy
'; i could feel he was lying';
You went with your gut, which is almost always the right way to go.
I disagree. I think falling in love is hard and falling out of love is easy...
if u have to ask yourself, ';am i in love?'; then ur not.
most people confuse love with lust.. im sure that's what he did however sometimes people think they are in love then as they get to know the true you find out that they are in for more then they bargained for i have fallen out of love before but after years of abuse one can expect that
its not easy to fall out of love at all when people change your love slowly starts fading away the next thing you know your not in love with them however if you were or are in a serious relationship with this person you will always think about them and wonder what if i still have feelings for him/her chances are your just lonely or horny
How long does it take to fall in love with someone. What causes it.?
i feel like i'm in love with my girlfriend of 3 months, we talk a lot more than we actually spend time making out etc. Dont really want to have sex with her yet. our feelings are mutual. So?How long does it take to fall in love with someone. What causes it.?
it depends.
you can fall in love at firs sight and you can fall in love with a friend you knew for twenty years.. it's about that special moment.
about the second part of the question; dopamine, serotonin, adrenaline and endorphin.How long does it take to fall in love with someone. What causes it.?
it takes from 1 second to years to fall in love, depending on how hard it hits you.
what causes it? when you connect on all levels, spiritually, emotionally, psycologically, sexually...with whoever you're with and you know that your life would never be the same without that person.
is that what you feel for your girlfriend? i envy her that....
Love is a tricky thing. Sometimes you feel like your are in love but really it is just lust. From what it sounds like it isn't lust. You might be in love, but I would give it sometime. Love is something that just feels right, and if this feels right to you then that is wonderful.
It took me a day to fall in love with my boyfriend...
I fell in love with him so deeply...
I still do, even after three years.
Pheromones cause it, which is pretty much like finger prints for people. And apparently, you're attracted to HER body odor :P
it takes a minute to know some someone, an hour to like someone, a day to love someone, but it takes a life time to forget someone. you remember that, and you remember it well before saying I love you. ;)
Nobody can tell you how long it takes to fall in love or what causes it because it changes by the person and by the situation.
so what? you love her. what do you want us to say. why are you asking a question you already know the answer to????
I guess you are in love already,but don't know it yet.
Sometimes it takes ages,sometimes one second is anough
It takes more than just a few months in order to be true love. Sounds like you may be working on it though.
There is no time limit involved in falling in love with someone. The way that person makes you feel is the main cause.
Well i think some times love at first sight . and some time it take a little longer until you get to know each other
we can't say precisely. may be coincidence.
there is no time set.
but having sex is not right to judge about how much ur into love
let time pass by and u'll urself know how much u r in need of each other
There is no set time...everyone is individual. You feel it, when you feel it !!!!
as long as it takes
What the question here?
it depends.
you can fall in love at firs sight and you can fall in love with a friend you knew for twenty years.. it's about that special moment.
about the second part of the question; dopamine, serotonin, adrenaline and endorphin.How long does it take to fall in love with someone. What causes it.?
it takes from 1 second to years to fall in love, depending on how hard it hits you.
what causes it? when you connect on all levels, spiritually, emotionally, psycologically, sexually...with whoever you're with and you know that your life would never be the same without that person.
is that what you feel for your girlfriend? i envy her that....
Love is a tricky thing. Sometimes you feel like your are in love but really it is just lust. From what it sounds like it isn't lust. You might be in love, but I would give it sometime. Love is something that just feels right, and if this feels right to you then that is wonderful.
It took me a day to fall in love with my boyfriend...
I fell in love with him so deeply...
I still do, even after three years.
Pheromones cause it, which is pretty much like finger prints for people. And apparently, you're attracted to HER body odor :P
it takes a minute to know some someone, an hour to like someone, a day to love someone, but it takes a life time to forget someone. you remember that, and you remember it well before saying I love you. ;)
Nobody can tell you how long it takes to fall in love or what causes it because it changes by the person and by the situation.
so what? you love her. what do you want us to say. why are you asking a question you already know the answer to????
I guess you are in love already,but don't know it yet.
Sometimes it takes ages,sometimes one second is anough
It takes more than just a few months in order to be true love. Sounds like you may be working on it though.
There is no time limit involved in falling in love with someone. The way that person makes you feel is the main cause.
Well i think some times love at first sight . and some time it take a little longer until you get to know each other
we can't say precisely. may be coincidence.
there is no time set.
but having sex is not right to judge about how much ur into love
let time pass by and u'll urself know how much u r in need of each other
There is no set time...everyone is individual. You feel it, when you feel it !!!!
as long as it takes
What the question here?
Girls is it special if you fall in love with someone who is not your type?
My ex and i never told each other we loved each other because we were never serious that long but her friend told me that she talks to her every night about how she wishes she would say it. The weird thing is she always told me when we were going out that i wasnt her type. She likes guys who dont play sports and have alot of free time and dont go with the flow and go to the dances. I do all those things. Is it something special to fall in love with someone who you never thought you could?Girls is it special if you fall in love with someone who is not your type?
yeah its special if you fall for someone thats not your type.. that means you went out of the box and took someone for what they are and not what you normally wantGirls is it special if you fall in love with someone who is not your type?
I never thought i'd fall for my bf (been dating for 3 years). Because he wasn't what i normally liked. But i dont think you fall in love with what a person does in his spare time or how he dresses or what stereotype he is in highschool. (if you are in highschool, but by the way you wrote that you sound like you are) You fall in love with the person and sometimes people will surprise you and sometimes they will act exactly how the ';stereotype'; of them acts. You asked if it was somethign special to fall in love with someone you never thought you could? and i think the answer is: any time you fall in love is special, if your really in love with that person. By the way, we didn't need to know how tall you are and about you abs... definently not about your abs.
I think so. Someone always.. or mostly, has this typical guy/girl that they think they will be happy with and then someone that's the total opposite shows up and you find yourself falling for that person.
yea cuz its like wow how can someone like u be just wat i wanted
yeah its special if you fall for someone thats not your type.. that means you went out of the box and took someone for what they are and not what you normally wantGirls is it special if you fall in love with someone who is not your type?
I never thought i'd fall for my bf (been dating for 3 years). Because he wasn't what i normally liked. But i dont think you fall in love with what a person does in his spare time or how he dresses or what stereotype he is in highschool. (if you are in highschool, but by the way you wrote that you sound like you are) You fall in love with the person and sometimes people will surprise you and sometimes they will act exactly how the ';stereotype'; of them acts. You asked if it was somethign special to fall in love with someone you never thought you could? and i think the answer is: any time you fall in love is special, if your really in love with that person. By the way, we didn't need to know how tall you are and about you abs... definently not about your abs.
I think so. Someone always.. or mostly, has this typical guy/girl that they think they will be happy with and then someone that's the total opposite shows up and you find yourself falling for that person.
yea cuz its like wow how can someone like u be just wat i wanted
You don't need a reason to fall in love, and you fall in love with someone who you don't even know, why? ?
I'm not only talking about love at first sight, but it's hard to get to know someone well even after a whole week, a whole month, sometimes even longer. Yet your heart starts yearning for this person when he or she is out of sight, you feel like you want to see him or her again and again.
Sometimes you know that this person is not made for you, due to your own circumstances and situations, so even though you know, why does this heart feel so restless and full of pain?
Is it possible to fall in love with someone within a month and so deep that you forget yourself and your feelings? Even though I knew this person will have to go back home, I still never thought of myself, I didn't get the chance to think about myself. It's amost three months since he's gone, and I still have the same feelings for him, I'm still looking around desperately for him and I still want him to come back.
Am I in love, really? What shall I do? Shall I tell him, how I've become crazy for him? He has confessed his love for me, but if this is love, why is love written in our fate if destiny can't bring us together? If I haven't confessed my love for him, that's because I don't want to hurt my heart even more, because I know after telling him, he will be happy and I'll be yearning to see his face glowing in my love.You don't need a reason to fall in love, and you fall in love with someone who you don't even know, why? ?
There are many reasons for falling in love, and as you stated, your mind and feelings tell you, this isn't right or won't work. Those usually are the right feelings.
But that feeling of being ';In Love'; can be overwhelming and drowns out the rational part of our beings.
I read a long time ago, that when we fall for some stranger, and way to fast to be based on the knowledge of that person, it's usually because, they are so close a reflection of some one you loved as a child. It could have been a parent, aunt or uncle, or teacher. But someone, who cared for you, and loved you dearly.
So when you meet someone, who brings back those memories, they stir up those old feelings of love. Even though, you can't recall who the original person was. But feelings run deep and stay with us, most of our lives.
He's been gone three months now, and that feeling hasn't left you. However, it's more like a feeling of loss or regret, you are feeling now.
If you had been together for three months, and learned more about him, would your feeling of love still be the same? I doubt it.
Love is blind, and it often takes time, for our eyes to open and see that person for who they really are. What you see then, may delight and please you, and can turn into true love, and on the other hand, may cause you to say to yourself, ';What the hell was I thinking?';
So if destiny doesn't give you a chance to confess your love, you will just have to live with a sweet memory of what might have been.
One of those ship board romances or two ships that pass in the night.
Don't worry, if this one doesn't come to pass, there will be others that will and perhaps be a lot more real and true for you.You don't need a reason to fall in love, and you fall in love with someone who you don't even know, why? ?
you pretty much just summed up my situation. i would call that love and i would definitely tell him. it could be written in your fate and destiny just cant bring you together right now...just tell him and see where that takes you..
Its not love, love does not hurt you like this, this is infatuation and it is bad. You will eventually get over him when you meet someone else.
That's too long
Sometimes you know that this person is not made for you, due to your own circumstances and situations, so even though you know, why does this heart feel so restless and full of pain?
Is it possible to fall in love with someone within a month and so deep that you forget yourself and your feelings? Even though I knew this person will have to go back home, I still never thought of myself, I didn't get the chance to think about myself. It's amost three months since he's gone, and I still have the same feelings for him, I'm still looking around desperately for him and I still want him to come back.
Am I in love, really? What shall I do? Shall I tell him, how I've become crazy for him? He has confessed his love for me, but if this is love, why is love written in our fate if destiny can't bring us together? If I haven't confessed my love for him, that's because I don't want to hurt my heart even more, because I know after telling him, he will be happy and I'll be yearning to see his face glowing in my love.You don't need a reason to fall in love, and you fall in love with someone who you don't even know, why? ?
There are many reasons for falling in love, and as you stated, your mind and feelings tell you, this isn't right or won't work. Those usually are the right feelings.
But that feeling of being ';In Love'; can be overwhelming and drowns out the rational part of our beings.
I read a long time ago, that when we fall for some stranger, and way to fast to be based on the knowledge of that person, it's usually because, they are so close a reflection of some one you loved as a child. It could have been a parent, aunt or uncle, or teacher. But someone, who cared for you, and loved you dearly.
So when you meet someone, who brings back those memories, they stir up those old feelings of love. Even though, you can't recall who the original person was. But feelings run deep and stay with us, most of our lives.
He's been gone three months now, and that feeling hasn't left you. However, it's more like a feeling of loss or regret, you are feeling now.
If you had been together for three months, and learned more about him, would your feeling of love still be the same? I doubt it.
Love is blind, and it often takes time, for our eyes to open and see that person for who they really are. What you see then, may delight and please you, and can turn into true love, and on the other hand, may cause you to say to yourself, ';What the hell was I thinking?';
So if destiny doesn't give you a chance to confess your love, you will just have to live with a sweet memory of what might have been.
One of those ship board romances or two ships that pass in the night.
Don't worry, if this one doesn't come to pass, there will be others that will and perhaps be a lot more real and true for you.You don't need a reason to fall in love, and you fall in love with someone who you don't even know, why? ?
you pretty much just summed up my situation. i would call that love and i would definitely tell him. it could be written in your fate and destiny just cant bring you together right now...just tell him and see where that takes you..
Its not love, love does not hurt you like this, this is infatuation and it is bad. You will eventually get over him when you meet someone else.
That's too long
Is it possible to fall in love after meeting someone once?
I was in texas visiting my sister and my last night there we went to a dancehall and I met this guy. He taught me how to dance and talked with my sister and her fiance. He politely asked if he could hang out with us and my sister and her fiance said yes. I road back to their apartment in his car and we were talking. We cuddled and talked the last few hours before I had to leave for the airport. We kissed a couple of times. Since then we have been texting and calling each other every day for over a month. We have become pretty serious, very quickly. He is in the Navy and stationed in San Diego. We say I love you to each other and how we can't wait to be together again. When we disagree and get mad we talk it through and solve the disagreement. This all just seems too good to be true. Someone tell me if this is possible? Am I living a dream or can this really happen? Can I truely fall in love with someone this fast?Is it possible to fall in love after meeting someone once?
Try not to put so much pressure on yourself.
Just go with the flow. We waste so much time analyzing, trying to make things fit our idea of what life ';should'; be like. There is no script. Good or bad it is all good if you get what I mean.
But to answer your question. Most definitely Yes.
I knew the moment I met her that we would be together for the rest of our lives. Now we are married with two beautiful kids and incredibly happy.
=)Is it possible to fall in love after meeting someone once?
i definitely think its possible to fall in love with someone after meeting them once. i mean only you would know if your in love but i don't think your living a dream. your just one of the lucky ones. Hope everything works out the way you want it to. = ]
of course you can! there is no certain amount of time that you need to spend with someone to fall in love with. just enjoy it!
why not? i mean come on! u don't fall in love by counting the number of times you meet. from what it seems like, u too have a great understanding. so i say 'Good Luck'!
You can for sure,but it can be other than love.
LOL, are you serious? LOL.
Sure it is. However, keep in mind that it may not be the person exactly that you are in love with, it may be the idea of that person and what you have him built up as in your mind. I was in your position sort of, I met a guy who was on leave from Iraq back in january. He was a t my sisters house one night, he was her boyfriends brother. almost instantly i thought i loved him. we spent about 4 days together attached at the hip and then he went back to iraq. we talked everyday via internet i sent him gifts, letters, etc. i thought for sure i was in love with him and vice versa, we had even planned to live together once he got back home. trust me, i got the butterflies, the pounding heart beat every time he called me, etc. once he got home, he seriously turned into be someone else. completely different than how he was when i met him, he was heavily interested in getting drunk and high every night and had no time for a relationship. what im trying to say is, althouth it is very possible to love someone after having met them once, also keep in mind that you really do need to be in someones presence and spend time with them to really get to know them! i felt used after all of this, like i was just his pastime while he was away. but your situations different i mean hes not in iraq. best of luck!!
Yes it's possible, if you think you've found just the one then feed the relationship what it desires. It might end up being one of the best things that ever happened to you. I don't know.. life is bizarre, and you'll never know until you try. Teach each other and don't criticize - if something bothers you, talk to him about it. Take the chance to open up to each other and if he doesn't see what you see in him, well, fate. At least you will have memories of what used to be to help your learning of what else would happen along the road of your future. Have fun, stay true and be loyal and not sloppy. Sorry if my advice isn't relevant to your situation but this is just what I have in my mind.ltd music myspace
Try not to put so much pressure on yourself.
Just go with the flow. We waste so much time analyzing, trying to make things fit our idea of what life ';should'; be like. There is no script. Good or bad it is all good if you get what I mean.
But to answer your question. Most definitely Yes.
I knew the moment I met her that we would be together for the rest of our lives. Now we are married with two beautiful kids and incredibly happy.
=)Is it possible to fall in love after meeting someone once?
i definitely think its possible to fall in love with someone after meeting them once. i mean only you would know if your in love but i don't think your living a dream. your just one of the lucky ones. Hope everything works out the way you want it to. = ]
of course you can! there is no certain amount of time that you need to spend with someone to fall in love with. just enjoy it!
why not? i mean come on! u don't fall in love by counting the number of times you meet. from what it seems like, u too have a great understanding. so i say 'Good Luck'!
You can for sure,but it can be other than love.
LOL, are you serious? LOL.
Sure it is. However, keep in mind that it may not be the person exactly that you are in love with, it may be the idea of that person and what you have him built up as in your mind. I was in your position sort of, I met a guy who was on leave from Iraq back in january. He was a t my sisters house one night, he was her boyfriends brother. almost instantly i thought i loved him. we spent about 4 days together attached at the hip and then he went back to iraq. we talked everyday via internet i sent him gifts, letters, etc. i thought for sure i was in love with him and vice versa, we had even planned to live together once he got back home. trust me, i got the butterflies, the pounding heart beat every time he called me, etc. once he got home, he seriously turned into be someone else. completely different than how he was when i met him, he was heavily interested in getting drunk and high every night and had no time for a relationship. what im trying to say is, althouth it is very possible to love someone after having met them once, also keep in mind that you really do need to be in someones presence and spend time with them to really get to know them! i felt used after all of this, like i was just his pastime while he was away. but your situations different i mean hes not in iraq. best of luck!!
Yes it's possible, if you think you've found just the one then feed the relationship what it desires. It might end up being one of the best things that ever happened to you. I don't know.. life is bizarre, and you'll never know until you try. Teach each other and don't criticize - if something bothers you, talk to him about it. Take the chance to open up to each other and if he doesn't see what you see in him, well, fate. At least you will have memories of what used to be to help your learning of what else would happen along the road of your future. Have fun, stay true and be loyal and not sloppy. Sorry if my advice isn't relevant to your situation but this is just what I have in my mind.
Is really so difficult to fall in love?
Hello everybody.. I’m an 18-years old-girl, I live in a very small town lost somewhere in the worst European country, and maybe the worst country in the whole world.. I was born and I’m living in Italy -.-‘’ an horrible place with disgusting people, I hate this shitty hell and I’ll leave it and move to London as soon as I finish the High School next July.
I’ve got a lot of problems, I’ve been getting a terrible loneliness under my skin since I was 10, I’ve never been loved by anyone (starting with my parents) and I’ve never loved someone, I’ve never had a real friend, nor a boyfriend or a girlfriend (I mean, someone to fall in love with, not just someone to have sex with.. also because idk why but people here are all asexual @.@ I can have sex with someone only when I go in another country, don’t ask me the reason of this, it’s one of the things that are driving me crazy @.@).. I suffered sexual harassment when I was 10 and since then I suffered sexual trauma for about 5 years. I’ve been left alone by my parents, I suffered that hell all by myself, thinking people didn’t like me because I was wrong, I was guilty, I was disgusting. This lasted 5 years, and when I was 15 things slowly started to change, I got out of my trauma, started to have some kind of friends and finally surpassed my sex phobia. I felt like I was the queen of the universe for about two months, it was pure happiness.. but after that short period I realized things were not really changed. I was deeply changed, but people were still avoiding me, my “friends” were insincere and fake, no one feeling something for me. I thought I was too fat, and so too ugly (and actually it was true) to be loved by someone, so I went on diet and I lost almost 44 pounds in 2 years time, I tried to adopt different attitudes with people, trying to understand which was the right one, which one people would like. But no one has ever liked me (and I’ve never liked someone too, people here are all uninteresting, insignificant, close-minded and I’ve never had a feeling for someone), and this is still happening. It’s like I’m invisible, people don’t see me, I can’t start talking to someone, it’s like I really don’t exist. People here are all very antisocial, they have their provincial mentality and no interests, they’re not interested in travelling, knowing people, have experiences and so on, and this is actually a reason why it’s hard to find friends for me, and to fall in love. But this is not the only reason, and I’m afraid I’ve got something wrong inside me, I’m afraid things won’t change even when I’ll be in London or wherever else in the world.. I’ve never fallen in love (just a one-week crush last summer *.*)and I’m afraid of this, I’m afraid this will never happen, I’m afraid of I don’t clearly know what. How can I understand why am I wrong, what’s the wrong with me, why I can’t be someone’s Love Of My Life? Falling in love seems to be the easiest thing in world, it’s in every song, in every poem, in everyone’s eyes, but it doesn’t exist for me.. is really so difficult to fall in love? ):
Sorry for my pitiful English, and thank you for your answers (:Is really so difficult to fall in love?
Patients. Love just happens. We can't control it very well. I've loved my ex for 11 months after she left. I can't help it. And asexual people are not that rare. There are 60,000,000 world wide.
Your English is good. But it is ';a horrible,'; not ';an horrible.';
Sorry. Improper English is one of my pet peeves. Ironically I can't spell.
I’ve got a lot of problems, I’ve been getting a terrible loneliness under my skin since I was 10, I’ve never been loved by anyone (starting with my parents) and I’ve never loved someone, I’ve never had a real friend, nor a boyfriend or a girlfriend (I mean, someone to fall in love with, not just someone to have sex with.. also because idk why but people here are all asexual @.@ I can have sex with someone only when I go in another country, don’t ask me the reason of this, it’s one of the things that are driving me crazy @.@).. I suffered sexual harassment when I was 10 and since then I suffered sexual trauma for about 5 years. I’ve been left alone by my parents, I suffered that hell all by myself, thinking people didn’t like me because I was wrong, I was guilty, I was disgusting. This lasted 5 years, and when I was 15 things slowly started to change, I got out of my trauma, started to have some kind of friends and finally surpassed my sex phobia. I felt like I was the queen of the universe for about two months, it was pure happiness.. but after that short period I realized things were not really changed. I was deeply changed, but people were still avoiding me, my “friends” were insincere and fake, no one feeling something for me. I thought I was too fat, and so too ugly (and actually it was true) to be loved by someone, so I went on diet and I lost almost 44 pounds in 2 years time, I tried to adopt different attitudes with people, trying to understand which was the right one, which one people would like. But no one has ever liked me (and I’ve never liked someone too, people here are all uninteresting, insignificant, close-minded and I’ve never had a feeling for someone), and this is still happening. It’s like I’m invisible, people don’t see me, I can’t start talking to someone, it’s like I really don’t exist. People here are all very antisocial, they have their provincial mentality and no interests, they’re not interested in travelling, knowing people, have experiences and so on, and this is actually a reason why it’s hard to find friends for me, and to fall in love. But this is not the only reason, and I’m afraid I’ve got something wrong inside me, I’m afraid things won’t change even when I’ll be in London or wherever else in the world.. I’ve never fallen in love (just a one-week crush last summer *.*)and I’m afraid of this, I’m afraid this will never happen, I’m afraid of I don’t clearly know what. How can I understand why am I wrong, what’s the wrong with me, why I can’t be someone’s Love Of My Life? Falling in love seems to be the easiest thing in world, it’s in every song, in every poem, in everyone’s eyes, but it doesn’t exist for me.. is really so difficult to fall in love? ):
Sorry for my pitiful English, and thank you for your answers (:Is really so difficult to fall in love?
Patients. Love just happens. We can't control it very well. I've loved my ex for 11 months after she left. I can't help it. And asexual people are not that rare. There are 60,000,000 world wide.
Your English is good. But it is ';a horrible,'; not ';an horrible.';
Sorry. Improper English is one of my pet peeves. Ironically I can't spell.
Is it possible to love someone again after falling out of love with them?
I know the question sounds funny,but it is the best i can explain.I have been with my kids father for 4 years and have 1 baby girl by him.He has put me through hell and back in the past 2 years,leaving me on a continuious basis and being with other females.I would stay up and cry all night just knowing what he was doing.I put up with this for 2 years straight atleast once every two weeks!And I always took him back because I wanted to keep our family together.However 6 months ago,he left again and I caught him with another girl in her car and I had enough.I changed my number,changed the locks and let him know I was done with him.He went crazy for the next month,including numerous suicide threats etc... if he didnt get me back.So finally I just got tired of his begging and gave in again.Well He has been home for a few months now and has been doing really good.He treats me with alot of love and respect and doesnt even leave the house without me anymore.However I have tried to love him but I realized I just cant anymore no matter how hard I try.Every time I look at him i get angry just thinking of all he has put me through.I cant even make love to him anymore,and I would like too but I cant.He has been wonderful since being back, but in the back of my mind I just cant help but think he will hurt me again in a matter of time.Is it possible to love sumone again once the love is gone,or should I just move on?I'm 32 yrs. old and dont want to waste anymore of my life if its not going to work!Is it possible to love someone again after falling out of love with them?
Girl, even if he begs al he desevers is a kick in the ***Is it possible to love someone again after falling out of love with them?
Hell yea I've fallen in love and out of love with someone for 5 yrs now it's normal I think ILY BABEZ
no
of course it can happen again
Answer mine, please http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?鈥?/a>
It does happen.
Girl, even if he begs al he desevers is a kick in the ***Is it possible to love someone again after falling out of love with them?
Hell yea I've fallen in love and out of love with someone for 5 yrs now it's normal I think ILY BABEZ
no
of course it can happen again
Answer mine, please http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?鈥?/a>
It does happen.
Please: I need to fall out of love with him?
Basically, I love this guy but can never tell him. It's a complicated situation, but there is absolutely no way we could ever be together, or that I could even confess to him without ruining his life and current relationship (they are getting married). I don't want to completely cut him out of my life, if possible, because we are so close and I want him as a friend if I can't have him as a lover. I know I have to move on and stop thinking about him, and find a guy that I can be with, but every time I'm with another guy something reminds me of him and I get so frustrated with myself. It's not fair to the other guys, and I just want to be able to move on and fall in love with someone else.
How do you fall out of love with someone?Please: I need to fall out of love with him?
I had this problem once, but not with a guy who's getting married, so this is hard. What I had to do to get this guy out of my head was everytime I though about him, I would say to myself, ';Focus!! Focus on what you CAN have and focus on what will truly be able to make you happy.'; Cuz honey, he's gone, that ship has sailed. you need to find a way to distract yourself. Maybe distance yourself from him for a while, take on more hours at work, focus more on your studies. Tire your self out so you want have time to think about him.
Maybe take a sparring class or something to take out some of this frustration.Please: I need to fall out of love with him?
There's no easy way to fall out of love with someone. In fact there's no way at all really. It just takes time, time for those feelings to die down a bit. You'll meet someone you feel even more strongly about in the future, but in the meantime you just have to stay strong %26amp; go on with your life like he is.
okay this is a tough one.. maybe u can just telk him how u feel and then just not talk to him cuz u dont wanna mess things up. maybe ull feel better just telling him. what made u like him. do you know his wife? if u were married would u wanna know if your friend loved u if u did then u should tell him.
It's a bad thing to want what you can't have. Move on and live your life. There's more guys out there for you, just keep looking.
u hv to find some one new and different to distract u and keep thoughts about the other guy out of ur head!
How do you fall out of love with someone?Please: I need to fall out of love with him?
I had this problem once, but not with a guy who's getting married, so this is hard. What I had to do to get this guy out of my head was everytime I though about him, I would say to myself, ';Focus!! Focus on what you CAN have and focus on what will truly be able to make you happy.'; Cuz honey, he's gone, that ship has sailed. you need to find a way to distract yourself. Maybe distance yourself from him for a while, take on more hours at work, focus more on your studies. Tire your self out so you want have time to think about him.
Maybe take a sparring class or something to take out some of this frustration.Please: I need to fall out of love with him?
There's no easy way to fall out of love with someone. In fact there's no way at all really. It just takes time, time for those feelings to die down a bit. You'll meet someone you feel even more strongly about in the future, but in the meantime you just have to stay strong %26amp; go on with your life like he is.
okay this is a tough one.. maybe u can just telk him how u feel and then just not talk to him cuz u dont wanna mess things up. maybe ull feel better just telling him. what made u like him. do you know his wife? if u were married would u wanna know if your friend loved u if u did then u should tell him.
It's a bad thing to want what you can't have. Move on and live your life. There's more guys out there for you, just keep looking.
u hv to find some one new and different to distract u and keep thoughts about the other guy out of ur head!
How can you force yourself to fall back in love with someone?
long story short i dont love my partner anymore most of the time i cant stand him but he wont understand he just keeps asking for one more go and saying that we can sort it out
also we have a 4 month old baby so i cant leave him because i have nowhere to go and cant lose my son even for 50 50 custody
so what can i do to make myself love him again to make the situation easier?How can you force yourself to fall back in love with someone?
you cant force love.. but you can do peaceful co-existence, what almost all old couple do.. you have to think of your child, so give him a chance to prove himself for you. you may not love him but he may be the best father and provider for your child.. so what about accepting him as he is and try to have a peaceful happy family??
take care. my wishes are with you..How can you force yourself to fall back in love with someone?
You can't force yourself to love someone. You are certainly between a rock and a hard place. If you do not get along with him, the last thing you ought to be doing is staying together for the sake of your baby. You will only screw that kid up so good, (s)he will go into life thinking this is how relationships should be.
Find some temporary housing, leave him and get on with life. You will have some struggles but life will get better. There is nothing worse than living with someone you can't stand. I did that for 10 years and finally got out. It's easier to say leaving than to actually do it, and when I actually did it: I thought: it's that easy? and wished I had done it years earlier.
Your kid is better off with one parent in a loving relationship than two who hate each other and fighting. You will find someone else later on and things usually work out.
You can't force love. It has to come naturally, from the heart. The statement that you ';can't stand him'; is quite strong, so there must be something quite wrong in the relationship for you to feel that way.
If you're not willing to give it a go, then don't. It's time to move on. Excuses about children, etc don't cut it. You either have a life of misery which will eventually affect your child, or you get on with your life .. without him. Seek some advice if you need be .. lawyer, counsellor. Don't rely on family suggestions, but get somebody's help and take that step.
Nothing worse than living in a love bare relationship.
Ask yourself why you dont like him. Write a list of the things you dont like...one column with the title: The things you want him to change about himself and another column with the things 'he cant change. are you not physically attracted to him? is he not masculine enough? is he not giving you the attention you need to feel happy? or do you not like him because of his big nose that would require a nose job... i dont know - think about what you can and cant change about him..and try pin point exactly what you dont like - does he turn you off? i know it's difficult...but maybe you need to talk to him about what you want to change to have a successful relationships. Sacrifice and compromise are important in a relationship.
I don't think you can make yourself 'love' a person yet there comes a need to express what is sincerely wrong in a relationship in order to be able to fix it and begin to work on being happier. If you have not done this, you need to communicate to him why you are unhappy and also what would make it better to get this change started.
You just had a baby your hormones might be out of whack. Give your body a little more time to get over the stress of having a baby. You may have weird resentment for him right now that will go away in time, Dont do anything rash. For the next few months focus on what a good father he is to your baby (hopefully he is) and see the good in him think all positive thoughts about him no negative. See how this works for you. Obviously you love him you had a baby with him.
u cant force someone 2 fall in luv with u but i think u 2 should try to talk it out with each other not fight but have a conversation about this situation maybe u 2 can get back together.i mean this is for ur son so do it 4 him!
-Good luck
Its hard to fall back in love again...
But i guess you could still try for the sake of your child.. Give him a chance again and spend more time together like watching love movies and simple stuff...
I believe the child will still need his/her father.
You can't fake love...It has to work.
I understand your situation and motives though, but I'm afraid pretending will just make things worse.
Best of luck to you!
lie to yourself, if u lie for long enough you start to believe that lie and eventually u believe that u will be in love with him,
fake it till u make it, that's what they say...
damn that sucks.i fu have a day job or something u can b out of the house for the day and then spend the nights with ur son instead of him. good luck :)
If you find a good answer let me know Im trying to break it off with a girl but don't want to completely crush her feelings. I wish things could be the way they were when we started but I dont feel the same anymore
You can't. You can only pretend.
You can't force love.
Go back and remember what made you fall in-love with him when you first met ?
try a romantic vacation with just the two of you.
you cant really, i mean you could probably fall in lust with him. but thats bout all...
Try sex
you cant and shouldnt
can't
Relationships are hard. There will be times when you wonder what the heck you married this guy for.....or why you thought you could love them.
Many relationships break up too quickly because people do not want to work at it.
If you do not FIX your problems now...they will follow you. You have to figure out why you changed so much you want to give up someone that you made promises to. Someone who trusts you..and loves you.
You will end up in the same boat if you don't figure out why this fell apart...and what your part in it was. YES...your part. Relationships are two people...and couples tend to become human after a few years and have this little irritating thing of letting you know that life isn't a bed of roses all the time....there are changes...forever changes. One grows and then the other....life changes...things happen...you have to adapt...you grow again....things happen again....
It is life....and it is something you figure out together.
sometimes we want to make it about us and it isn't fair to ruin my life with someone I don't love anymore...etc....
But you are ruining more than YOUR life here....
Get some counseling ...marriage counseling and work on this together. The more you work on things together..the more you act as a couple the more you will realize the things you loved about him...or you will find you really do need to part. But you will have UNDERSTOOD WHY and fix yourself before doing anything without helping all of you first.
I don't know why you can't stand him most of the time.....but sometimes our minds change things up a bit.
Unless he is abusive...unless he is into drugs and won't quit...unless he is constantly cheating.....you don't walk away without trying to fix it.
You cannot force yourself to fall in love....but you can think you are NOT in love for a period of time...and you really are.
You need counseling to figure this out....good luck.
also we have a 4 month old baby so i cant leave him because i have nowhere to go and cant lose my son even for 50 50 custody
so what can i do to make myself love him again to make the situation easier?How can you force yourself to fall back in love with someone?
you cant force love.. but you can do peaceful co-existence, what almost all old couple do.. you have to think of your child, so give him a chance to prove himself for you. you may not love him but he may be the best father and provider for your child.. so what about accepting him as he is and try to have a peaceful happy family??
take care. my wishes are with you..How can you force yourself to fall back in love with someone?
You can't force yourself to love someone. You are certainly between a rock and a hard place. If you do not get along with him, the last thing you ought to be doing is staying together for the sake of your baby. You will only screw that kid up so good, (s)he will go into life thinking this is how relationships should be.
Find some temporary housing, leave him and get on with life. You will have some struggles but life will get better. There is nothing worse than living with someone you can't stand. I did that for 10 years and finally got out. It's easier to say leaving than to actually do it, and when I actually did it: I thought: it's that easy? and wished I had done it years earlier.
Your kid is better off with one parent in a loving relationship than two who hate each other and fighting. You will find someone else later on and things usually work out.
You can't force love. It has to come naturally, from the heart. The statement that you ';can't stand him'; is quite strong, so there must be something quite wrong in the relationship for you to feel that way.
If you're not willing to give it a go, then don't. It's time to move on. Excuses about children, etc don't cut it. You either have a life of misery which will eventually affect your child, or you get on with your life .. without him. Seek some advice if you need be .. lawyer, counsellor. Don't rely on family suggestions, but get somebody's help and take that step.
Nothing worse than living in a love bare relationship.
Ask yourself why you dont like him. Write a list of the things you dont like...one column with the title: The things you want him to change about himself and another column with the things 'he cant change. are you not physically attracted to him? is he not masculine enough? is he not giving you the attention you need to feel happy? or do you not like him because of his big nose that would require a nose job... i dont know - think about what you can and cant change about him..and try pin point exactly what you dont like - does he turn you off? i know it's difficult...but maybe you need to talk to him about what you want to change to have a successful relationships. Sacrifice and compromise are important in a relationship.
I don't think you can make yourself 'love' a person yet there comes a need to express what is sincerely wrong in a relationship in order to be able to fix it and begin to work on being happier. If you have not done this, you need to communicate to him why you are unhappy and also what would make it better to get this change started.
You just had a baby your hormones might be out of whack. Give your body a little more time to get over the stress of having a baby. You may have weird resentment for him right now that will go away in time, Dont do anything rash. For the next few months focus on what a good father he is to your baby (hopefully he is) and see the good in him think all positive thoughts about him no negative. See how this works for you. Obviously you love him you had a baby with him.
u cant force someone 2 fall in luv with u but i think u 2 should try to talk it out with each other not fight but have a conversation about this situation maybe u 2 can get back together.i mean this is for ur son so do it 4 him!
-Good luck
Its hard to fall back in love again...
But i guess you could still try for the sake of your child.. Give him a chance again and spend more time together like watching love movies and simple stuff...
I believe the child will still need his/her father.
You can't fake love...It has to work.
I understand your situation and motives though, but I'm afraid pretending will just make things worse.
Best of luck to you!
lie to yourself, if u lie for long enough you start to believe that lie and eventually u believe that u will be in love with him,
fake it till u make it, that's what they say...
damn that sucks.i fu have a day job or something u can b out of the house for the day and then spend the nights with ur son instead of him. good luck :)
If you find a good answer let me know Im trying to break it off with a girl but don't want to completely crush her feelings. I wish things could be the way they were when we started but I dont feel the same anymore
You can't. You can only pretend.
You can't force love.
Go back and remember what made you fall in-love with him when you first met ?
try a romantic vacation with just the two of you.
you cant really, i mean you could probably fall in lust with him. but thats bout all...
Try sex
you cant and shouldnt
can't
Relationships are hard. There will be times when you wonder what the heck you married this guy for.....or why you thought you could love them.
Many relationships break up too quickly because people do not want to work at it.
If you do not FIX your problems now...they will follow you. You have to figure out why you changed so much you want to give up someone that you made promises to. Someone who trusts you..and loves you.
You will end up in the same boat if you don't figure out why this fell apart...and what your part in it was. YES...your part. Relationships are two people...and couples tend to become human after a few years and have this little irritating thing of letting you know that life isn't a bed of roses all the time....there are changes...forever changes. One grows and then the other....life changes...things happen...you have to adapt...you grow again....things happen again....
It is life....and it is something you figure out together.
sometimes we want to make it about us and it isn't fair to ruin my life with someone I don't love anymore...etc....
But you are ruining more than YOUR life here....
Get some counseling ...marriage counseling and work on this together. The more you work on things together..the more you act as a couple the more you will realize the things you loved about him...or you will find you really do need to part. But you will have UNDERSTOOD WHY and fix yourself before doing anything without helping all of you first.
I don't know why you can't stand him most of the time.....but sometimes our minds change things up a bit.
Unless he is abusive...unless he is into drugs and won't quit...unless he is constantly cheating.....you don't walk away without trying to fix it.
You cannot force yourself to fall in love....but you can think you are NOT in love for a period of time...and you really are.
You need counseling to figure this out....good luck.
Have you ever purposely tried to fall out of love with your spouse?
Please don't judge me or give me a speech on marriage vows. I'm a huge advocate for marriage is forever. I also feel adultry is not ok...that if you have a problem, deal with it through counseling and communication.
My husband and I have two small kids. He has many emotional problems, too many to count. I fell in love with him because he has many good qualities and when he is not in one of his depressive cycles he is good to me. He's a good father and good provider.
The problem is he's emotionally abusive and controlling when he's depressed. His depression usually comes and goes every few months, but the past year he's been on a downward spiral. He has not recovered. He is hypercritical of everything I do and punishes me for wrongs by withholding affection. He has some sexual anger as well. He is very abusive to me, but not the kids. He is also an expert at controlling me right when the kids walk out of the room, hiding things, etc., so that the kids don't see it. He is going to counseling for all of it and admits he does it. But it hasn't changed anything, he just says this is the way he is.
I have always been steadfast and determined to make this marriage work. Because of his control and anger issues, I know if we were to divorce it would be a nightmare when it comes to co-parenting. Besides, our two kids adore him and he's a great father.
Therefore I'm resolved to stay in the marriage. I just don't want to be in love with him any more. I don't want to come home hoping/expecting a loving partner and getting his cold manipulation. I want to be able to not love him and just think of him as another person in the house.
I have developed this sudden ';idea'; that if I could just fall in love with someone else and see them on the side, then my kids could have their father and not be from a broken home. Clearly I am not going to be able to find someone else, as that isn't how love works. I'm just wondering if anyone else has purposely tried to detach and fall out of love with their spouse?
I've listed all the negative faults of my husband because they relate to the question. But he can be a good guy when he's not depressed. He says he wants to change but he's not participating in the therapy.Have you ever purposely tried to fall out of love with your spouse?
I don't know how to make yourself fall out of love. You still love him so do what you can to salvage what you have. If you cant get him into counseling get yourself into counseling. If you are not careful his ridicule and emotional abuse will eventually lead to you having a much lower opinion of yourself. Falling in love with another man is not going to help; it will only complicate matters.
He is a good guy when not depressed so concentrate on getting him to see a dr. and get on some anti depressants; they work wonders and there is not stigma attached. You may benefit yourself from some.
If he is truly abusive, you do not need to fall out of love to leave him. Maybe taking the kids and moving out and moving on will force him to recognize the problem and seek help. Sometimes it takes something as drastic as a separation to realize your wife and family are worth fighting for and getting well for.
I feel for you. Good luck.Have you ever purposely tried to fall out of love with your spouse?
sorry don't know how to answer.
yes
Insist on therapy as he will never get better and the kids are watching every stupid thing he does. He is a role model and not a very good one.
Don't cheat as you will give him the upper hand in any divorce proceedings if you get caught. Tell him to get in therapy or the relationship is over.
Being a good father and a part time or less.. good partner is not just cause to stay in a marriage. Life is way too short to just settle with this unhappiness. I think you should either give all or none in a relationship and it seems that you have given your all but you dont get any type of return. I, like you have been in a lost marriage due to his mental issues and I chose to stay for the kids sake. The kids are not stupid and they know if Mom is happy or not. I am still here in the loveless marriage and kids are grown and gone. Do yourself a favor, get out and live your life for you for a change and dont do as I did.. wait until you are too old to change. I stayed for all the stupid reasons and now will always wonder .. was there happiness out there for me? I will never know. But you still have a chance for happiness. Good luck.
Sounds like you have the problems not him. Take the kids to grandma's and tell him you want a divorce befor he does some really bad to you. I have a feeling that you have already cheated on him. Your just looking for some validation for doing so. If he finds out he probally going to do something very bad, then the kids wont have either of you.
There are many problems in married life but we have to compromise for the sake of our kids. The kids who come from such a marriage develop hatred for relationships.
Help you hubby he needs your support and care.
Love is essential in a marriage, if there is love everything looks easy, you tend to forgive soon and accept the shortcomings.
Think of his good qualities he is a good father and a good provider. I think you need someone who can motivate you positively.
Love someone else once you take divorce not before that it will land you in problem if your hubby and kids find it.
Have small vacation, give him time love and affection. Make your nights memorable make him happy.
Absolutely it is possible, why not, if he is hurting you and being abusive. What you are experiencing sounds like a cycle of domestic abuse. I don't understand how cheating enters the picture though. If that is the case then you should seek a divorce, and then go persue it. I don't think there is ever an excuse for cheating. What does falling out of love with him have to do with your s*x life? I fell out of love with my husband a long time ago and it never affected our s*x life. We all have our needs, isn't that one of the benefits of being married in the first place? You shouldn't have to go outside the marriage. You both took vows, and being faithful is one of them.
i am sorry you are having such a hard time...is he on medication? i know counseling helps but medicine helps the brain waves...i know from experience.
i think you too are depressed...how can you not be..
i don't know how you can make yourself fall out of love... i do know that you are having a lot of these ';love '; feelings because part of you is trying avoid the pain..
an affair will only make you feel guilty.....and i don't think you want to add more unhappiness to your mind...not to mention if he has this power over you he can be violent if he finds out...
see if he can start some meds ...talk with him about going to the doctors..get a medical workup.
if he is going to counseling he seems to be willing to try ..
good luck
My husband and I have two small kids. He has many emotional problems, too many to count. I fell in love with him because he has many good qualities and when he is not in one of his depressive cycles he is good to me. He's a good father and good provider.
The problem is he's emotionally abusive and controlling when he's depressed. His depression usually comes and goes every few months, but the past year he's been on a downward spiral. He has not recovered. He is hypercritical of everything I do and punishes me for wrongs by withholding affection. He has some sexual anger as well. He is very abusive to me, but not the kids. He is also an expert at controlling me right when the kids walk out of the room, hiding things, etc., so that the kids don't see it. He is going to counseling for all of it and admits he does it. But it hasn't changed anything, he just says this is the way he is.
I have always been steadfast and determined to make this marriage work. Because of his control and anger issues, I know if we were to divorce it would be a nightmare when it comes to co-parenting. Besides, our two kids adore him and he's a great father.
Therefore I'm resolved to stay in the marriage. I just don't want to be in love with him any more. I don't want to come home hoping/expecting a loving partner and getting his cold manipulation. I want to be able to not love him and just think of him as another person in the house.
I have developed this sudden ';idea'; that if I could just fall in love with someone else and see them on the side, then my kids could have their father and not be from a broken home. Clearly I am not going to be able to find someone else, as that isn't how love works. I'm just wondering if anyone else has purposely tried to detach and fall out of love with their spouse?
I've listed all the negative faults of my husband because they relate to the question. But he can be a good guy when he's not depressed. He says he wants to change but he's not participating in the therapy.Have you ever purposely tried to fall out of love with your spouse?
I don't know how to make yourself fall out of love. You still love him so do what you can to salvage what you have. If you cant get him into counseling get yourself into counseling. If you are not careful his ridicule and emotional abuse will eventually lead to you having a much lower opinion of yourself. Falling in love with another man is not going to help; it will only complicate matters.
He is a good guy when not depressed so concentrate on getting him to see a dr. and get on some anti depressants; they work wonders and there is not stigma attached. You may benefit yourself from some.
If he is truly abusive, you do not need to fall out of love to leave him. Maybe taking the kids and moving out and moving on will force him to recognize the problem and seek help. Sometimes it takes something as drastic as a separation to realize your wife and family are worth fighting for and getting well for.
I feel for you. Good luck.Have you ever purposely tried to fall out of love with your spouse?
sorry don't know how to answer.
yes
Insist on therapy as he will never get better and the kids are watching every stupid thing he does. He is a role model and not a very good one.
Don't cheat as you will give him the upper hand in any divorce proceedings if you get caught. Tell him to get in therapy or the relationship is over.
Being a good father and a part time or less.. good partner is not just cause to stay in a marriage. Life is way too short to just settle with this unhappiness. I think you should either give all or none in a relationship and it seems that you have given your all but you dont get any type of return. I, like you have been in a lost marriage due to his mental issues and I chose to stay for the kids sake. The kids are not stupid and they know if Mom is happy or not. I am still here in the loveless marriage and kids are grown and gone. Do yourself a favor, get out and live your life for you for a change and dont do as I did.. wait until you are too old to change. I stayed for all the stupid reasons and now will always wonder .. was there happiness out there for me? I will never know. But you still have a chance for happiness. Good luck.
Sounds like you have the problems not him. Take the kids to grandma's and tell him you want a divorce befor he does some really bad to you. I have a feeling that you have already cheated on him. Your just looking for some validation for doing so. If he finds out he probally going to do something very bad, then the kids wont have either of you.
There are many problems in married life but we have to compromise for the sake of our kids. The kids who come from such a marriage develop hatred for relationships.
Help you hubby he needs your support and care.
Love is essential in a marriage, if there is love everything looks easy, you tend to forgive soon and accept the shortcomings.
Think of his good qualities he is a good father and a good provider. I think you need someone who can motivate you positively.
Love someone else once you take divorce not before that it will land you in problem if your hubby and kids find it.
Have small vacation, give him time love and affection. Make your nights memorable make him happy.
Absolutely it is possible, why not, if he is hurting you and being abusive. What you are experiencing sounds like a cycle of domestic abuse. I don't understand how cheating enters the picture though. If that is the case then you should seek a divorce, and then go persue it. I don't think there is ever an excuse for cheating. What does falling out of love with him have to do with your s*x life? I fell out of love with my husband a long time ago and it never affected our s*x life. We all have our needs, isn't that one of the benefits of being married in the first place? You shouldn't have to go outside the marriage. You both took vows, and being faithful is one of them.
i am sorry you are having such a hard time...is he on medication? i know counseling helps but medicine helps the brain waves...i know from experience.
i think you too are depressed...how can you not be..
i don't know how you can make yourself fall out of love... i do know that you are having a lot of these ';love '; feelings because part of you is trying avoid the pain..
an affair will only make you feel guilty.....and i don't think you want to add more unhappiness to your mind...not to mention if he has this power over you he can be violent if he finds out...
see if he can start some meds ...talk with him about going to the doctors..get a medical workup.
if he is going to counseling he seems to be willing to try ..
good luck
I need to fall out of love with her, please help.?
About a month ago I made a very foolish decision. I allowed myself to fall in love with someone who is more popular, talented, and all around better than myself. I, at one time, considered asking her out or something, but besides the obvious reason that she's too good for me, I find out she's already dating someone. I try hard to stop thinking about her but I still find her in my thoughts (It doesn't help that we're in the same class). I would very much appreciate any suggestions on how to fall out of love with her.I need to fall out of love with her, please help.?
Just stop and realize that it's not the end of the world.
Just stop and realize that it's not the end of the world.
How do you fall out of love with a guy you can never be with?
Basically, I love this guy but can never tell him. It's a complicated situation, but there is absolutely no way we could ever be together, or that I could even confess to him without ruining his life and current relationship. I don't want to completely cut him out of my life, if possible, because we are so close. I know I have to move on and stop thinking about him, and find a guy that I can be with, but every time I'm with another guy something reminds me of him and I get so frustrated with myself. It's not fair to the other guys, and I just want to be able to move on and fall in love with someone else.
How do you fall out of love with someone?How do you fall out of love with a guy you can never be with?
Well, I've been in a situation such as that and am going through something similar with someone else, which I think proves that it IS possible to fall out of love, or even just 'like' with someone without really trying. Basically you need to just keep thinking about it as you are now and sooner or later someone you can really connect with will come around and you'll be falling for them before you know it...
I can assure you that, if what you say is true, you will meet someone fairly soon and you will either be great friends or may have the potential to have a relationship. I hope this helped.How do you fall out of love with a guy you can never be with?
You will just fall more love with him. What I suggest is when his relationship gets rough or they break up , go for it, what do you have to lose.
if you try you fall the more
How do you fall out of love with someone?How do you fall out of love with a guy you can never be with?
Well, I've been in a situation such as that and am going through something similar with someone else, which I think proves that it IS possible to fall out of love, or even just 'like' with someone without really trying. Basically you need to just keep thinking about it as you are now and sooner or later someone you can really connect with will come around and you'll be falling for them before you know it...
I can assure you that, if what you say is true, you will meet someone fairly soon and you will either be great friends or may have the potential to have a relationship. I hope this helped.How do you fall out of love with a guy you can never be with?
You will just fall more love with him. What I suggest is when his relationship gets rough or they break up , go for it, what do you have to lose.
if you try you fall the more
Is it possible to fall in love with someone's voice?
Mari茅 Digby 禄 Voice On The Radio
Last night I fell in love with a stranger
Behind the glass house he came walking out the backdoor
Into a crowd of screaming girls calling his name
I never saw it coming, the way a voice can make me feel
And I fear that I am falling
I should be old enough to know
Not to fall in love with the voice on the radio
So here I stand fighting what I feel for you
Torn between what reason says and how I really feel
And here I stand, wondering what to say to you
Hoping that you feel the same, the same as I do
He's in a rock band with a voice like an angel
And eyes of a raven sky
And suddenly I find myself twelve years old again
Dreaming of you
But who am I kidding to even think that you might see me
It's in the stars that girls like me
And boys like you were never meant to be
So here I stand fighting what I feel for you
Torn between what reason says and how I really feel
And here I stand, wondering what to say to you
Hoping that you feel the same, the same as I do
Would you be scared if I told you I like you
And would you run if I told you I love you
Cuz here I stand fighting what I feel for you
Torn between what reason says and how I really feel
And here I stand, wondering what to say to you
Hoping that you feel the same, the same
As I do, as I do, as I do
I never saw it coming the way a voice can make me feel
And I fear that I am falling
I should be old enough to know
Not to fall in love with the voice on the radio
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Is it possible to fall in love with someone's voice?Is it possible to fall in love with someone's voice?
I know that Blind people do.Is it possible to fall in love with someone's voice?
I did. Way back in the 70's, my day is not complete when I don't hear the voice of this DJ from DZRJ. I have fantasized about his looks, thought
of calling him up on the phone but haven't got the nerve to do it.
yes, it happened to me. Good thing he was attractive when I saw him. So they say, that if you have a sexy voice on the phone chances are you are ugly.
hahahahaha@mared...
it is possible crunch. remember, somebody fell in love with just text messages.. haven't even seen the other person yet they fell.
pre valentine Qs? =))
yes, or i thought i was in love.
it happened to me when i was in college.
advice: don't rely on the voice alone.
A wise man once said:
You'll never see a radio announcer/dj with an ugly wife, no matter how ugly the announcer/dj is.
not in-love... infatuate perhaps...
Hummm....anything is possible!
Sure thing! But to fall in love with the whole package- warts and all, is an entirely different thing.
for some... but i'm not included... haha...
Yup. It's called phone sex and it ain't cheap.
Yes it is possible...(I think)^^
Yes,its very possible coz i did.......im cRazy about my fiancee' voice
Well, I fell in love with Craig Owens' voice.
So, maybe it's possible? :D
Would that apply to the blind?
ya
Last night I fell in love with a stranger
Behind the glass house he came walking out the backdoor
Into a crowd of screaming girls calling his name
I never saw it coming, the way a voice can make me feel
And I fear that I am falling
I should be old enough to know
Not to fall in love with the voice on the radio
So here I stand fighting what I feel for you
Torn between what reason says and how I really feel
And here I stand, wondering what to say to you
Hoping that you feel the same, the same as I do
He's in a rock band with a voice like an angel
And eyes of a raven sky
And suddenly I find myself twelve years old again
Dreaming of you
But who am I kidding to even think that you might see me
It's in the stars that girls like me
And boys like you were never meant to be
So here I stand fighting what I feel for you
Torn between what reason says and how I really feel
And here I stand, wondering what to say to you
Hoping that you feel the same, the same as I do
Would you be scared if I told you I like you
And would you run if I told you I love you
Cuz here I stand fighting what I feel for you
Torn between what reason says and how I really feel
And here I stand, wondering what to say to you
Hoping that you feel the same, the same
As I do, as I do, as I do
I never saw it coming the way a voice can make me feel
And I fear that I am falling
I should be old enough to know
Not to fall in love with the voice on the radio
---------
Is it possible to fall in love with someone's voice?Is it possible to fall in love with someone's voice?
I know that Blind people do.Is it possible to fall in love with someone's voice?
I did. Way back in the 70's, my day is not complete when I don't hear the voice of this DJ from DZRJ. I have fantasized about his looks, thought
of calling him up on the phone but haven't got the nerve to do it.
yes, it happened to me. Good thing he was attractive when I saw him. So they say, that if you have a sexy voice on the phone chances are you are ugly.
hahahahaha@mared...
it is possible crunch. remember, somebody fell in love with just text messages.. haven't even seen the other person yet they fell.
pre valentine Qs? =))
yes, or i thought i was in love.
it happened to me when i was in college.
advice: don't rely on the voice alone.
A wise man once said:
You'll never see a radio announcer/dj with an ugly wife, no matter how ugly the announcer/dj is.
not in-love... infatuate perhaps...
Hummm....anything is possible!
Sure thing! But to fall in love with the whole package- warts and all, is an entirely different thing.
for some... but i'm not included... haha...
Yup. It's called phone sex and it ain't cheap.
Yes it is possible...(I think)^^
Yes,its very possible coz i did.......im cRazy about my fiancee' voice
Well, I fell in love with Craig Owens' voice.
So, maybe it's possible? :D
Would that apply to the blind?
ya
I need to fall out of love with him.... but how......?
Okay here goes....!
i had a friend who i met six years ago when i was back in college. at the time i had a boyfriend, and the two of them did not get along so i kept well away from im despite the fact he tried on serveal occasions to create converstaions with me .... he looked like a player anyway and as soon as i saw him i knew that he was one of them guys who i could fall for... but seemed as though he would have broken my heart so i totally kept my distance from him.
During my time at college he one day saw me on my way home back from college and gave me a lift home as i lived far away. i accepted... i had broken up with my college boyfriend and was now single. He dropped me home and we wet our seprate ways ... would say hello to each other in the corridor etc.
he would sometimes call me at odd hours of the night but i would never pick up because 1stly it was i had to make some sort of boundary, and secondly i knew that he was dangrous coz i knew i could fall in love with someone like him and he would break my heart.
two years later aftrer leaving college, i was deleting numbers and rang to see if it still worked. it did.... we had a long convo... and from that day hit it off this was in April 2007 he came to see me, pick me up from wrk, etc.... by the end of dec 2007 we admited to each other we liked each other.....
straight away he told me he liked he told me that he was not ready for a realtionship.... which i was cool with as no boundaries had been crossed. i thoaught maybe later something may happen as we would spend a mini of 2 to 4 hours on the phone. he would always txt me and o the days i felt down he would say the right things to pick me up.
feb 2008 he offered to wisk me away on hoilday... i could not go coz i had a uni deadline the very next day he was going away. so i could not go ... i knew that he had taken someone else but, i asked he told me he had taken his best friend.... i knew he hasd lied.. but i did not let iit ge to me, coz we werent dating or doing anything.
i had no right to question him and so leti t go...... ony thing was tht him inviting me to go away with him did give me mixed signals as one min ur not ready for anything serious... and next min u want to take me away on hoilday....:-S a romantic one for two...... hmmmmm but any way i let it go... him doing this made me think was he simply becoming close to me so he could sleep with me.... he was also constantly inviting me to stay the night at his housre to stay the night as i kept on decline as he aint my boyfrien and his not someone im dating his a friend so i didn't really need to make a great effort... as i can see him during the day
anywho i began to think he only wanted me for sex.... then we were in the middle of our very long convos one day when he asked me if i could imagine myself having sex with him.. which i can easily... but then he tells me he finds me sexually attractive but cannot imagine him doing the act...
now come on before u go there u alaways have to see it... this haunted me for the longest time.... it dented my confidence... i know that i am very attractive and he even told me all his friends fancy me.... when i went out with him to a club all his friend tryed to chat me up before they knew it was him i had come with... when they found out they all left me and stared bugging him for my number, he toold all of them that i was already taken.... so this did really play with my head... he had also put them off me and then called me to tell me tha everyone wnted to know who i was etc he then asked me if i was seeing anyone.... tio find out if it was any of his friends... i did not realise till i got off the phone but was angry with myself as i had answered all his questions...... he always told me that none of his friends were allowed to date me despite the fact we never kissed, never had sex or did anything sexually toghter... so if i wanted to i could go coz all really do was talk......however by this point i was falling and did not even realise it.... so everything he said was like gold...
anywho due to this i ended up going to stay over at his... nothing happen.... he had put me offf kinda by saying that... all we did was spoon the whole night.... i also did not make to much a=of an effort as he told me he cannot imagine anything happein so i was looking at him as a friend.....
on going back home i knew i was in love with him......it did not hit me straight awy... as i did not miss him etc it was not until a week later.
i could not hold it in so sent him a long message on facebook telling him that i liked him again.. he put me straight and told me hestill was not into me claiming not to be good enough for me....
so i felt u know this is it.... he has told me this nw my time to go... and since june 08 i have been trying to get over hhim i have cut off all contact everything... it now down to a txt as i care foor him to much to be a friend....
i have one throughI need to fall out of love with him.... but how......?
I can telll by your projection, that IT FELT GOOD to GET THAT OFF UR CHEST, as it should. My that is quite a while you have been ';holding onto'; , the glimmer, of ';what coulda been';. If this situation has caused you to retreat from networking/dating others, it is time for you to ';venture out,,,. Did u say YES ALL TIES CUT, or ur still txting, as ur last line, just fades off to%26gt; ';i have one through............
I worry if you do not process these emotions, you may manifest dis-ease, so finish ur story, so as i can feel the situation more clear.
i had a friend who i met six years ago when i was back in college. at the time i had a boyfriend, and the two of them did not get along so i kept well away from im despite the fact he tried on serveal occasions to create converstaions with me .... he looked like a player anyway and as soon as i saw him i knew that he was one of them guys who i could fall for... but seemed as though he would have broken my heart so i totally kept my distance from him.
During my time at college he one day saw me on my way home back from college and gave me a lift home as i lived far away. i accepted... i had broken up with my college boyfriend and was now single. He dropped me home and we wet our seprate ways ... would say hello to each other in the corridor etc.
he would sometimes call me at odd hours of the night but i would never pick up because 1stly it was i had to make some sort of boundary, and secondly i knew that he was dangrous coz i knew i could fall in love with someone like him and he would break my heart.
two years later aftrer leaving college, i was deleting numbers and rang to see if it still worked. it did.... we had a long convo... and from that day hit it off this was in April 2007 he came to see me, pick me up from wrk, etc.... by the end of dec 2007 we admited to each other we liked each other.....
straight away he told me he liked he told me that he was not ready for a realtionship.... which i was cool with as no boundaries had been crossed. i thoaught maybe later something may happen as we would spend a mini of 2 to 4 hours on the phone. he would always txt me and o the days i felt down he would say the right things to pick me up.
feb 2008 he offered to wisk me away on hoilday... i could not go coz i had a uni deadline the very next day he was going away. so i could not go ... i knew that he had taken someone else but, i asked he told me he had taken his best friend.... i knew he hasd lied.. but i did not let iit ge to me, coz we werent dating or doing anything.
i had no right to question him and so leti t go...... ony thing was tht him inviting me to go away with him did give me mixed signals as one min ur not ready for anything serious... and next min u want to take me away on hoilday....:-S a romantic one for two...... hmmmmm but any way i let it go... him doing this made me think was he simply becoming close to me so he could sleep with me.... he was also constantly inviting me to stay the night at his housre to stay the night as i kept on decline as he aint my boyfrien and his not someone im dating his a friend so i didn't really need to make a great effort... as i can see him during the day
anywho i began to think he only wanted me for sex.... then we were in the middle of our very long convos one day when he asked me if i could imagine myself having sex with him.. which i can easily... but then he tells me he finds me sexually attractive but cannot imagine him doing the act...
now come on before u go there u alaways have to see it... this haunted me for the longest time.... it dented my confidence... i know that i am very attractive and he even told me all his friends fancy me.... when i went out with him to a club all his friend tryed to chat me up before they knew it was him i had come with... when they found out they all left me and stared bugging him for my number, he toold all of them that i was already taken.... so this did really play with my head... he had also put them off me and then called me to tell me tha everyone wnted to know who i was etc he then asked me if i was seeing anyone.... tio find out if it was any of his friends... i did not realise till i got off the phone but was angry with myself as i had answered all his questions...... he always told me that none of his friends were allowed to date me despite the fact we never kissed, never had sex or did anything sexually toghter... so if i wanted to i could go coz all really do was talk......however by this point i was falling and did not even realise it.... so everything he said was like gold...
anywho due to this i ended up going to stay over at his... nothing happen.... he had put me offf kinda by saying that... all we did was spoon the whole night.... i also did not make to much a=of an effort as he told me he cannot imagine anything happein so i was looking at him as a friend.....
on going back home i knew i was in love with him......it did not hit me straight awy... as i did not miss him etc it was not until a week later.
i could not hold it in so sent him a long message on facebook telling him that i liked him again.. he put me straight and told me hestill was not into me claiming not to be good enough for me....
so i felt u know this is it.... he has told me this nw my time to go... and since june 08 i have been trying to get over hhim i have cut off all contact everything... it now down to a txt as i care foor him to much to be a friend....
i have one throughI need to fall out of love with him.... but how......?
I can telll by your projection, that IT FELT GOOD to GET THAT OFF UR CHEST, as it should. My that is quite a while you have been ';holding onto'; , the glimmer, of ';what coulda been';. If this situation has caused you to retreat from networking/dating others, it is time for you to ';venture out,,,. Did u say YES ALL TIES CUT, or ur still txting, as ur last line, just fades off to%26gt; ';i have one through............
I worry if you do not process these emotions, you may manifest dis-ease, so finish ur story, so as i can feel the situation more clear.
What happens when you fall in love with someone but they don't feel the same way? HELP!!! PLEASE!?
What happens when you fall in love with someone but they don't feel the same way?
Okay this will be kinda long but I really need your advice cause i am desperate. Lately i have posted a lot of questions pertaining to this topic but have yet to find something that really helps so I'm going to reword it. I am in LOVE with this girl. Were good friends for about 2 years. Not like hanging out a lot but talking and texting a lot. We did hang out many times though. I shared a lot of stuff with her that i normally wouldn't tell anyone because i can be kinda insecure sometimes. She isn't my first love or anything but the only one i cannot get over. I have been through a rough break up before, but got over it eventually, in a month or so. But this time it is different because i never dated her. One day I decided to tell her that I liked her and she just sorta went around it and said that there were other guys and stuff but she's not dating anyone and hasn't been for a long time. This happened about 4 months ago and i was all right with it at first. But as time passes i get more and more depressed. I have acquired a taste for prescription drugs even, hydrocodone to be exact, also know as lortab. The pain killers give me a feel to which i no longer care that she doesn't love and i just admire her beauty and think about what a great person she is. The pills scare me tho because i have overdosed many times. They have caused me much physical sickness. I tried to take 20 in 24 hours before which should kill you and i puked for 2 days. Why does she make me do this to myself, well i know it only me but my feelings make me. I have spent a lot of time with her and know a lot about her and there isn't one thing that i don't love about her. She is nearly perfect with a few flaws that i like anyways. I even tear up sometimes when I'm high and thinking about her. Which is usually for me because i am usually a loud-ish and care free kinda person. I am extremely intelligent and so is she, 1300 on sat each and good schools. But she has really changed me. I love her so much and cannot stand not be with her. Since i told her that i liked her we stayed the same for a while but once i found the drugs i distanced myself greatly from her. I even ignore texts anymore and limit physical interact to a simple hi and small talk. I don't want her to find out about the stupidest choice of my life, drugs. But the pain is just to bad. When i feel really down i write about her. I filled up my blackberry and had to delete it all so i could receive texts. I also write on my mac and have over 15 pages. It makes me feel so gay to be so crushed by a single girl. i just wish she could know how i feel without telling her and making a bigger fool out of myself. I don't know what to do know. I am slowly getting of the drugs, I'll be completely off them within a month I'm determined. I want to tell her how i feel but don't know how. What do I do next? Thanks in advance for any help, i really appreciate it.What happens when you fall in love with someone but they don't feel the same way? HELP!!! PLEASE!?
When I first read your question, I was a bit scarred to answer it. Listen, this girl is extremely lucky to have someone love her like you do. You should express your feelings towards her in every way you can, so talk to her even if it means being rejected. Drugs are not the solution to your problems, they will only make you more miserable. Get that girl alone, face to face, and talk to her seriously. You have got to know if there is hope for you two. If not, then it will hurt, but you can slowly let go and move on with your life. It will be painful, but if you love her like you say you do then you will respect her wishes. I Hope you understand and good luck.What happens when you fall in love with someone but they don't feel the same way? HELP!!! PLEASE!?
see a shrink get antidepressants and stay under a dr care.. its easy to feel more for someone when you are feeling less of yourself. I think you should focus on developing yourself to a healthy place and then not think about a relationship til you can get there.. its just a fact of life.. not everyone is going to dig you when you are diggin them.!!
and it stinks.. move on!
Okay this will be kinda long but I really need your advice cause i am desperate. Lately i have posted a lot of questions pertaining to this topic but have yet to find something that really helps so I'm going to reword it. I am in LOVE with this girl. Were good friends for about 2 years. Not like hanging out a lot but talking and texting a lot. We did hang out many times though. I shared a lot of stuff with her that i normally wouldn't tell anyone because i can be kinda insecure sometimes. She isn't my first love or anything but the only one i cannot get over. I have been through a rough break up before, but got over it eventually, in a month or so. But this time it is different because i never dated her. One day I decided to tell her that I liked her and she just sorta went around it and said that there were other guys and stuff but she's not dating anyone and hasn't been for a long time. This happened about 4 months ago and i was all right with it at first. But as time passes i get more and more depressed. I have acquired a taste for prescription drugs even, hydrocodone to be exact, also know as lortab. The pain killers give me a feel to which i no longer care that she doesn't love and i just admire her beauty and think about what a great person she is. The pills scare me tho because i have overdosed many times. They have caused me much physical sickness. I tried to take 20 in 24 hours before which should kill you and i puked for 2 days. Why does she make me do this to myself, well i know it only me but my feelings make me. I have spent a lot of time with her and know a lot about her and there isn't one thing that i don't love about her. She is nearly perfect with a few flaws that i like anyways. I even tear up sometimes when I'm high and thinking about her. Which is usually for me because i am usually a loud-ish and care free kinda person. I am extremely intelligent and so is she, 1300 on sat each and good schools. But she has really changed me. I love her so much and cannot stand not be with her. Since i told her that i liked her we stayed the same for a while but once i found the drugs i distanced myself greatly from her. I even ignore texts anymore and limit physical interact to a simple hi and small talk. I don't want her to find out about the stupidest choice of my life, drugs. But the pain is just to bad. When i feel really down i write about her. I filled up my blackberry and had to delete it all so i could receive texts. I also write on my mac and have over 15 pages. It makes me feel so gay to be so crushed by a single girl. i just wish she could know how i feel without telling her and making a bigger fool out of myself. I don't know what to do know. I am slowly getting of the drugs, I'll be completely off them within a month I'm determined. I want to tell her how i feel but don't know how. What do I do next? Thanks in advance for any help, i really appreciate it.What happens when you fall in love with someone but they don't feel the same way? HELP!!! PLEASE!?
When I first read your question, I was a bit scarred to answer it. Listen, this girl is extremely lucky to have someone love her like you do. You should express your feelings towards her in every way you can, so talk to her even if it means being rejected. Drugs are not the solution to your problems, they will only make you more miserable. Get that girl alone, face to face, and talk to her seriously. You have got to know if there is hope for you two. If not, then it will hurt, but you can slowly let go and move on with your life. It will be painful, but if you love her like you say you do then you will respect her wishes. I Hope you understand and good luck.What happens when you fall in love with someone but they don't feel the same way? HELP!!! PLEASE!?
see a shrink get antidepressants and stay under a dr care.. its easy to feel more for someone when you are feeling less of yourself. I think you should focus on developing yourself to a healthy place and then not think about a relationship til you can get there.. its just a fact of life.. not everyone is going to dig you when you are diggin them.!!
and it stinks.. move on!
How do you fall out of love? I can never be with this guy...?
Basically, I love this guy but can never tell him. It's a complicated situation, but there is absolutely no way we could ever be together, or that I could even confess to him without ruining his life and current relationship (they are getting married). I don't want to completely cut him out of my life, if possible, because we are so close and I want him as a friend if I can't have him as a lover. I know I have to move on and stop thinking about him, and find a guy that I can be with, but every time I'm with another guy something reminds me of him and I get so frustrated with myself. It's not fair to the other guys, and I just want to be able to move on and fall in love with someone else.
How do you fall out of love with someone?How do you fall out of love? I can never be with this guy...?
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How do you fall out of love with someone?How do you fall out of love? I can never be with this guy...?
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I need to fall out of love with him.... but how?
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i had a friend who i met six years ago when i was back in college. at the time i had a boyfriend, and the two of them did not get along so i kept well away from im despite the fact he tried on serveal occasions to create converstaions with me .... he looked like a player anyway and as soon as i saw him i knew that he was one of them guys who i could fall for... but seemed as though he would have broken my heart so i totally kept my distance from him.
During my time at college he one day saw me on my way home back from college and gave me a lift home as i lived far away. i accepted... i had broken up with my college boyfriend and was now single. He dropped me home and we wet our seprate ways ... would say hello to each other in the corridor etc.
he would sometimes call me at odd hours of the night but i would never pick up because 1stly it was i had to make some sort of boundary, and secondly i knew that he was dangrous coz i knew i could fall in love with someone like him and he would break my heart.
two years later aftrer leaving college, i was deleting numbers and rang to see if it still worked. it did.... we had a long convo... and from that day hit it off this was in April 2007 he came to see me, pick me up from wrk, etc.... by the end of dec 2007 we admited to each other we liked each other.....
straight away he told me he liked he told me that he was not ready for a realtionship.... which i was cool with as no boundaries had been crossed. i thoaught maybe later something may happen as we would spend a mini of 2 to 4 hours on the phone. he would always txt me and o the days i felt down he would say the right things to pick me up.
feb 2008 he offered to wisk me away on hoilday... i could not go coz i had a uni deadline the very next day he was going away. so i could not go ... i knew that he had taken someone else but, i asked he told me he had taken his best friend.... i knew he hasd lied.. but i did not let iit ge to me, coz we werent dating or doing anything.
i had no right to question him and so leti t go...... ony thing was tht him inviting me to go away with him did give me mixed signals as one min ur not ready for anything serious... and next min u want to take me away on hoilday....:-S a romantic one for two...... hmmmmm but any way i let it go... him doing this made me think was he simply becoming close to me so he could sleep with me.... he was also constantly inviting me to stay the night at his housre to stay the night as i kept on decline as he aint my boyfrien and his not someone im dating his a friend so i didn't really need to make a great effort... as i can see him during the day
anywho i began to think he only wanted me for sex.... then we were in the middle of our very long convos one day when he asked me if i could imagine myself having sex with him.. which i can easily... but then he tells me he finds me sexually attractive but cannot imagine him doing the act...
now come on before u go there u alaways have to see it... this haunted me for the longest time.... it dented my confidence... i know that i am very attractive and he even told me all his friends fancy me.... when i went out with him to a club all his friend tryed to chat me up before they knew it was him i had come with... when they found out they all left me and stared bugging him for my number, he toold all of them that i was already taken.... so this did really play with my head... he had also put them off me and then called me to tell me tha everyone wnted to know who i was etc he then asked me if i was seeing anyone.... tio find out if it was any of his friends... i did not realise till i got off the phone but was angry with myself as i had answered all his questions...... he always told me that none of his friends were allowed to date me despite the fact we never kissed, never had sex or did anything sexually toghter... so if i wanted to i could go coz all really do was talk......however by this point i was falling and did not even realise it.... so everything he said was like gold...
anywho due to this i ended up going to stay over at his... nothing happen.... he had put me offf kinda by saying that... all we did was spoon the whole night.... i also did not make to much a=of an effort as he told me he cannot imagine anything happein so i was looking at him as a friend.....
on going back home i knew i was in love with him......it did not hit me straight awy... as i did not miss him etc it was not until a week later.
i could not hold it in so sent him a long message on facebook telling him that i liked him again.. he put me straight and told me hestill was not into me claiming not to be good enough for me....
so i felt u know this is it.... he has told me this nw my time to go... and since june 08 i have been trying to get over hhim i have cut off all contact everything... it now down to a txt as i care foor him to much to be a friend....
i have one throughI need to fall out of love with him.... but how?
Oh my gosh, I have had such a similar situation to you, this guy was SO similiar to the guy in your story.
He was a player unfortnately, like your guy invited you on holiday, mine invited me to a gig, but I couldnt go and he still went, we never kissed or did anything sexually - but we cuddled one time round mine, he was always telling me he wasnt good enough for me/he wasnt ready for a relationship, but always asked if I was seeing someone! WOW, it's so similiar.
I started to really fall for him aswell, but I am now finally over it, and it's definately for the best - I met another guy I liked, and realised I could do a thousand times better than the player guy, just try to forget about him and don't talk to him when he contacts you - it will be hard at first, but, eventually, over time you will get over him!
Good luck lovee!
i had a friend who i met six years ago when i was back in college. at the time i had a boyfriend, and the two of them did not get along so i kept well away from im despite the fact he tried on serveal occasions to create converstaions with me .... he looked like a player anyway and as soon as i saw him i knew that he was one of them guys who i could fall for... but seemed as though he would have broken my heart so i totally kept my distance from him.
During my time at college he one day saw me on my way home back from college and gave me a lift home as i lived far away. i accepted... i had broken up with my college boyfriend and was now single. He dropped me home and we wet our seprate ways ... would say hello to each other in the corridor etc.
he would sometimes call me at odd hours of the night but i would never pick up because 1stly it was i had to make some sort of boundary, and secondly i knew that he was dangrous coz i knew i could fall in love with someone like him and he would break my heart.
two years later aftrer leaving college, i was deleting numbers and rang to see if it still worked. it did.... we had a long convo... and from that day hit it off this was in April 2007 he came to see me, pick me up from wrk, etc.... by the end of dec 2007 we admited to each other we liked each other.....
straight away he told me he liked he told me that he was not ready for a realtionship.... which i was cool with as no boundaries had been crossed. i thoaught maybe later something may happen as we would spend a mini of 2 to 4 hours on the phone. he would always txt me and o the days i felt down he would say the right things to pick me up.
feb 2008 he offered to wisk me away on hoilday... i could not go coz i had a uni deadline the very next day he was going away. so i could not go ... i knew that he had taken someone else but, i asked he told me he had taken his best friend.... i knew he hasd lied.. but i did not let iit ge to me, coz we werent dating or doing anything.
i had no right to question him and so leti t go...... ony thing was tht him inviting me to go away with him did give me mixed signals as one min ur not ready for anything serious... and next min u want to take me away on hoilday....:-S a romantic one for two...... hmmmmm but any way i let it go... him doing this made me think was he simply becoming close to me so he could sleep with me.... he was also constantly inviting me to stay the night at his housre to stay the night as i kept on decline as he aint my boyfrien and his not someone im dating his a friend so i didn't really need to make a great effort... as i can see him during the day
anywho i began to think he only wanted me for sex.... then we were in the middle of our very long convos one day when he asked me if i could imagine myself having sex with him.. which i can easily... but then he tells me he finds me sexually attractive but cannot imagine him doing the act...
now come on before u go there u alaways have to see it... this haunted me for the longest time.... it dented my confidence... i know that i am very attractive and he even told me all his friends fancy me.... when i went out with him to a club all his friend tryed to chat me up before they knew it was him i had come with... when they found out they all left me and stared bugging him for my number, he toold all of them that i was already taken.... so this did really play with my head... he had also put them off me and then called me to tell me tha everyone wnted to know who i was etc he then asked me if i was seeing anyone.... tio find out if it was any of his friends... i did not realise till i got off the phone but was angry with myself as i had answered all his questions...... he always told me that none of his friends were allowed to date me despite the fact we never kissed, never had sex or did anything sexually toghter... so if i wanted to i could go coz all really do was talk......however by this point i was falling and did not even realise it.... so everything he said was like gold...
anywho due to this i ended up going to stay over at his... nothing happen.... he had put me offf kinda by saying that... all we did was spoon the whole night.... i also did not make to much a=of an effort as he told me he cannot imagine anything happein so i was looking at him as a friend.....
on going back home i knew i was in love with him......it did not hit me straight awy... as i did not miss him etc it was not until a week later.
i could not hold it in so sent him a long message on facebook telling him that i liked him again.. he put me straight and told me hestill was not into me claiming not to be good enough for me....
so i felt u know this is it.... he has told me this nw my time to go... and since june 08 i have been trying to get over hhim i have cut off all contact everything... it now down to a txt as i care foor him to much to be a friend....
i have one throughI need to fall out of love with him.... but how?
Oh my gosh, I have had such a similar situation to you, this guy was SO similiar to the guy in your story.
He was a player unfortnately, like your guy invited you on holiday, mine invited me to a gig, but I couldnt go and he still went, we never kissed or did anything sexually - but we cuddled one time round mine, he was always telling me he wasnt good enough for me/he wasnt ready for a relationship, but always asked if I was seeing someone! WOW, it's so similiar.
I started to really fall for him aswell, but I am now finally over it, and it's definately for the best - I met another guy I liked, and realised I could do a thousand times better than the player guy, just try to forget about him and don't talk to him when he contacts you - it will be hard at first, but, eventually, over time you will get over him!
Good luck lovee!
When u fall in love with someone and u dont get them it becomes harder in life?
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When I was in high school what ever girl I seen I like them, did not fall into love as deep as possible u think it would be.
10th GD I was sitting in a class room with my friend just chilling, all sudden I seen a girl came into my class room and gave something to my teacher, I realized by 3 second after watching her, I never seen this girl in this school. I was kind of falling for her instead of knowing her. Weeks and months passing by something bothering me and it was im falling for her. I had a wish after my 11th GD I will see her for my final time in my high school as a young senior. My dream was came true, I graduated with her in June 2007, I moved out NJ, I was in Michigan. Its easy to say go get her, I feel like not into love with her, but always it bothers me, which is thinking about her alll my life. Most people forget by 2yrs, It did not happen to me. Maybe my life and dream is designed like that. When I walk, and watch car pass by I always think she is in the car, but she isn't. I dont think anything nasty while Im having her face and look on my mind. I'm always thinking about her even if Im busy or not. Nothing stops me thinking about her. I hope I see her one day, its my destiny.
So many things happen in life, I wish my dream comes true.
She asked me to give her a pencil, i did not have it that time, I was thinking I did not hurt her or anything. I was hoping she would talk to me one day and that goal was accomplished for myself .
I'm fortune about what happen in my life, I hope I continue keep my dream alive.
If she want's to take a knife and tear my body apart, I dont care I will let her do it. It wont be any pain I will tell my self, this is not a pain.
I pray for her, I dont know how much god accept my prayer, but I keep my hope alive.
When I think about her, I pound my chest to recognize her.
I hope my dream comes true.
I hope and wish her best of luck with future life, and with her future husband.
I will never stop thinking about her, till my last breath runs out .
Tell me Im poor boy, or more u want. I will keep my hope alive.
I will remember her till my last and final breath runs out.
Seen her one time, is my destiny.
I wish there is no man hurts her, if it happens and some man hurts her its like, someone stabbed me in my heart.
We both have different religion
I went to a family wedding last Sunday, I was looking at wife and husband over there. I keep thinking about the girl I felt for.
Its hard.
Its hard to forget, even if Im busy or not even.When u fall in love with someone and u dont get them it becomes harder in life?
Wow you seem like you really care about her.
Life does because hard when you fall in love with someone, and she is a beautiful girl.When u fall in love with someone and u dont get them it becomes harder in life?
yes it does become hard in life
yep
woah that's insane man....
yeah....it's hard :/
yeah i no exactly how u feel
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When I was in high school what ever girl I seen I like them, did not fall into love as deep as possible u think it would be.
10th GD I was sitting in a class room with my friend just chilling, all sudden I seen a girl came into my class room and gave something to my teacher, I realized by 3 second after watching her, I never seen this girl in this school. I was kind of falling for her instead of knowing her. Weeks and months passing by something bothering me and it was im falling for her. I had a wish after my 11th GD I will see her for my final time in my high school as a young senior. My dream was came true, I graduated with her in June 2007, I moved out NJ, I was in Michigan. Its easy to say go get her, I feel like not into love with her, but always it bothers me, which is thinking about her alll my life. Most people forget by 2yrs, It did not happen to me. Maybe my life and dream is designed like that. When I walk, and watch car pass by I always think she is in the car, but she isn't. I dont think anything nasty while Im having her face and look on my mind. I'm always thinking about her even if Im busy or not. Nothing stops me thinking about her. I hope I see her one day, its my destiny.
So many things happen in life, I wish my dream comes true.
She asked me to give her a pencil, i did not have it that time, I was thinking I did not hurt her or anything. I was hoping she would talk to me one day and that goal was accomplished for myself .
I'm fortune about what happen in my life, I hope I continue keep my dream alive.
If she want's to take a knife and tear my body apart, I dont care I will let her do it. It wont be any pain I will tell my self, this is not a pain.
I pray for her, I dont know how much god accept my prayer, but I keep my hope alive.
When I think about her, I pound my chest to recognize her.
I hope my dream comes true.
I hope and wish her best of luck with future life, and with her future husband.
I will never stop thinking about her, till my last breath runs out .
Tell me Im poor boy, or more u want. I will keep my hope alive.
I will remember her till my last and final breath runs out.
Seen her one time, is my destiny.
I wish there is no man hurts her, if it happens and some man hurts her its like, someone stabbed me in my heart.
We both have different religion
I went to a family wedding last Sunday, I was looking at wife and husband over there. I keep thinking about the girl I felt for.
Its hard.
Its hard to forget, even if Im busy or not even.When u fall in love with someone and u dont get them it becomes harder in life?
Wow you seem like you really care about her.
Life does because hard when you fall in love with someone, and she is a beautiful girl.When u fall in love with someone and u dont get them it becomes harder in life?
yes it does become hard in life
yep
woah that's insane man....
yeah....it's hard :/
yeah i no exactly how u feel
Can you fall in love with someone you don't find attractive? *Long question*?
I guess I ought to explain. I warn you it will take some reading. Im in my final year of school, currently only months away from finishing. In my close group of friends are two women, Jane and Amy.
Though I've known them for 4 years, I've only been what could be considered ';real'; friends (as opposed to people I know and get on with) since November. Over the time since then until about then end of Jan, I spent a lot more time with them, developing a far stronger friendship.
Skip forward to the week before the end of February. Theres been a lot of drama, and I am comparing my life to a soap opera, but everything is sorted. Everything is sorted. We spend even more time together now that a Costa chain has opened in a nearby village. I decided to place my trust in Jane, as she had trusted me with feelings previously, and confess my infatuation with Amy. This infuriated her, because I was the only one who ';saw Amy how she really is'; (we had admittedly bitched about her a bit two days prior).
Come Saturday, after a week of fighting, at a party held at a friends house, Jane was in tears, fearing that I (and others) were only friends with her due to her closeness to Amy. After a lot of trying, I got her to talk to me about it. We realised that for whatever reason we cared about each other far more than we had previously established; much more akin to brother-sister than mere friends, and that she hated the thought of losing me because of Amy..
This event lead to her falling out with Amy. Something that hadn't happened in 7 years. During this time I tried to be everything Jane needed and more. In her words ';we have this incredible bond. I feel I can tell you anything';. Now, however she and Amy are once again friends, and I feel as if the bond has broken. She seems colder, more distant.
And it hurts. The only thing I can compare it to is when I fell in love some time two years ago and things went horrendously wrong. And more parallels can be drawn. If even the tiniest thing goes the tiniest bit wrong when she's around, I'll feel awful for at least a day. If things go right, however, I'm on top of the world. All indications would point to me having fallen in love (which is complicated enough, what with her having a boyfriend of 8 months today). And yet I'm not attracted to her.
Don't get me wrong, sometimes I see her and I just want to kiss her, hold her. But I don't find her attractive. Even more confusingly, I'm still very much enamoured with her best friend Amy.
So theres the details. Is it possible to fall in love with someone you don't find particularly attractive? That you just don't see that way?
And also, is it possible to fall in love with one person and be infatuated with another?Can you fall in love with someone you don't find attractive? *Long question*?
I think when you fancy someone, you start to find them more attractive than you did before, so maybe that's enough to push you into finding them attractive enough. If you don't find them at all attractive though, there's no point starting a relationship. It'll just cause problems in the future and you'll only end up hurting her and possibly yourself in the process. I'd suggest that you don't rush into to trying for a relationship with either of them, just stick to being their friend for a while and see how your feelings for Jane develop, and if it looks like Amy's got any feelings for you. Don't try to steal anyone away from their boyfriend either, especially when you're so confused, it's not fair to ruin other people's relationships.Can you fall in love with someone you don't find attractive? *Long question*?
im not readin all that but no its not a prob xxxxx take care as long as u love them it shud be fine
Though I've known them for 4 years, I've only been what could be considered ';real'; friends (as opposed to people I know and get on with) since November. Over the time since then until about then end of Jan, I spent a lot more time with them, developing a far stronger friendship.
Skip forward to the week before the end of February. Theres been a lot of drama, and I am comparing my life to a soap opera, but everything is sorted. Everything is sorted. We spend even more time together now that a Costa chain has opened in a nearby village. I decided to place my trust in Jane, as she had trusted me with feelings previously, and confess my infatuation with Amy. This infuriated her, because I was the only one who ';saw Amy how she really is'; (we had admittedly bitched about her a bit two days prior).
Come Saturday, after a week of fighting, at a party held at a friends house, Jane was in tears, fearing that I (and others) were only friends with her due to her closeness to Amy. After a lot of trying, I got her to talk to me about it. We realised that for whatever reason we cared about each other far more than we had previously established; much more akin to brother-sister than mere friends, and that she hated the thought of losing me because of Amy..
This event lead to her falling out with Amy. Something that hadn't happened in 7 years. During this time I tried to be everything Jane needed and more. In her words ';we have this incredible bond. I feel I can tell you anything';. Now, however she and Amy are once again friends, and I feel as if the bond has broken. She seems colder, more distant.
And it hurts. The only thing I can compare it to is when I fell in love some time two years ago and things went horrendously wrong. And more parallels can be drawn. If even the tiniest thing goes the tiniest bit wrong when she's around, I'll feel awful for at least a day. If things go right, however, I'm on top of the world. All indications would point to me having fallen in love (which is complicated enough, what with her having a boyfriend of 8 months today). And yet I'm not attracted to her.
Don't get me wrong, sometimes I see her and I just want to kiss her, hold her. But I don't find her attractive. Even more confusingly, I'm still very much enamoured with her best friend Amy.
So theres the details. Is it possible to fall in love with someone you don't find particularly attractive? That you just don't see that way?
And also, is it possible to fall in love with one person and be infatuated with another?Can you fall in love with someone you don't find attractive? *Long question*?
I think when you fancy someone, you start to find them more attractive than you did before, so maybe that's enough to push you into finding them attractive enough. If you don't find them at all attractive though, there's no point starting a relationship. It'll just cause problems in the future and you'll only end up hurting her and possibly yourself in the process. I'd suggest that you don't rush into to trying for a relationship with either of them, just stick to being their friend for a while and see how your feelings for Jane develop, and if it looks like Amy's got any feelings for you. Don't try to steal anyone away from their boyfriend either, especially when you're so confused, it's not fair to ruin other people's relationships.Can you fall in love with someone you don't find attractive? *Long question*?
im not readin all that but no its not a prob xxxxx take care as long as u love them it shud be fine
Can you fall in love with someone you just met?
i just met a guy and he's amazing. he's every thing i want and he's got a great heart. we seem to be mutually head over heals which has NEVER happened to me before. usually im into someone who isn't into me, or i'm not into someone who likes me. normally when i meet guys i feel unsure of them, i'm not sure i understand them and if things will work out....with this guy i had an immediate feeling of comfort, i love the way he thinks and the way he treats me...he's great, he makes me happy. usually when im with someone, early on i see several things i don't like and reserve my feelings until they all spill out, with him, i don't mind ANYTHING. we have the same temperament and i feel like i can intuitively pick up on his feelings. i've only spent a few days with him and i already have all these feelings and i think he has them too. is this really how people fall in love? is this too quick? can you just fall in love from meeting a person and instantly liking their thoughts, and temperament, and humor even though you've just met.Can you fall in love with someone you just met?
NO you can't! You can fall in lust, you can be infatuated or intrigued, you can make a connection and you can eveb be consumed by them but you don't just fall in love with someone. Love is like a seed that has to be planted and it takes a very long time and a lot of nurturing for it to grow and develop. It doesn't just happen.Can you fall in love with someone you just met?
Theoretically heroism could do it (i.e. a life-saving scenario), although such a scenario isn't something that you should go for to find true love, unless in the unlikely event such an opportunity arises. That's just my take on this.
Only if your desperate, and have no confidence.
if you beleive in love at first sight i dont see why not
Question to you first are you coming out of something major in your life? A recent break up, job loss etc..? This maybe a small reason for the sudden complete indulgence into this person. If not I won't say No as others are. Many people speak of meeting their soul mate and knew it when it happened. Two of my best friends guys that are the true definition of stan up. Said this to me when each one first started dating their now WIVES. I would say proceed with caution but hell whats the worst that could happen. Right now you have met a great person and are having a good time and feel good. Even if it is for a short time, well that's OK.
NO you can't! You can fall in lust, you can be infatuated or intrigued, you can make a connection and you can eveb be consumed by them but you don't just fall in love with someone. Love is like a seed that has to be planted and it takes a very long time and a lot of nurturing for it to grow and develop. It doesn't just happen.Can you fall in love with someone you just met?
Theoretically heroism could do it (i.e. a life-saving scenario), although such a scenario isn't something that you should go for to find true love, unless in the unlikely event such an opportunity arises. That's just my take on this.
Only if your desperate, and have no confidence.
if you beleive in love at first sight i dont see why not
Question to you first are you coming out of something major in your life? A recent break up, job loss etc..? This maybe a small reason for the sudden complete indulgence into this person. If not I won't say No as others are. Many people speak of meeting their soul mate and knew it when it happened. Two of my best friends guys that are the true definition of stan up. Said this to me when each one first started dating their now WIVES. I would say proceed with caution but hell whats the worst that could happen. Right now you have met a great person and are having a good time and feel good. Even if it is for a short time, well that's OK.
What happens when you fall in love with someone but they don't feel the same way? HELP!!! PLEASE!?
What happens when you fall in love with someone but they don't feel the same way? HELP!!! PLEASE!?
What happens when you fall in love with someone but they don't feel the same way?
Okay this will be kinda long but I really need your advice cause i am desperate. Lately i have posted a lot of questions pertaining to this topic but have yet to find something that really helps so I'm going to reword it. I am in LOVE with this girl. Were good friends for about 2 years. Not like hanging out a lot but talking and texting a lot. We did hang out many times though. I shared a lot of stuff with her that i normally wouldn't tell anyone because i can be kinda insecure sometimes. She isn't my first love or anything but the only one i cannot get over. I have been through a rough break up before, but got over it eventually, in a month or so. But this time it is different because i never dated her. One day I decided to tell her that I liked her and she just sorta went around it and said that there were other guys and stuff but she's not dating anyone and hasn't been for a long time. This happened about 4 months ago and i was all right with it at first. But as time passes i get more and more depressed. I have acquired a taste for prescription drugs even, hydrocodone to be exact, also know as lortab. The pain killers give me a feel to which i no longer care that she doesn't love and i just admire her beauty and think about what a great person she is. The pills scare me tho because i have overdosed many times. They have caused me much physical sickness. I tried to take 20 in 24 hours before which should kill you and i puked for 2 days. Why does she make me do this to myself, well i know it only me but my feelings make me. I have spent a lot of time with her and know a lot about her and there isn't one thing that i don't love about her. She is nearly perfect with a few flaws that i like anyways. I even tear up sometimes when I'm high and thinking about her. Which is usually for me because i am usually a loud-ish and care free kinda person. I am extremely intelligent and so is she, 1300 on sat each and good schools. But she has really changed me. I love her so much and cannot stand not be with her. Since i told her that i liked her we stayed the same for a while but once i found the drugs i distanced myself greatly from her. I even ignore texts anymore and limit physical interact to a simple hi and small talk. I don't want her to find out about the stupidest choice of my life, drugs. But the pain is just to bad. When i feel really down i write about her. I filled up my blackberry and had to delete it all so i could receive texts. I also write on my mac and have over 15 pages. It makes me feel so gay to be so crushed by a single girl. i just wish she could know how i feel without telling her and making a bigger fool out of myself. I don't know what to do know. I am slowly getting of the drugs, I'll be completely off them within a month I'm determined. I want to tell her how i feel but don't know how. What do I do next? Thanks in advance for any help, i really appreciate it.What happens when you fall in love with someone but they don't feel the same way? HELP!!! PLEASE!?
wow, there are a few more issues going on here other than loving her. The drugs were the worst mistake you could have made! You combine that with your sort of sorrow and depression and you will end up with a fatal error.
NO ONE is hopelessly in love with someone forever. It sounds redundant but its the only true advice. In time this shall pass. But you need to do more to help yourself. STOP obsessing, like writing about her. That just re-enforces your infatuation.
It feels impossible, but you need to pick yourself up and get involved with other things. Sports, a group of friends, school, your job, family, exercise, setting some goals and accomplishing them.....anything to help keep you pre-occupied and interesting in something else. Yes this will be extremely difficult, but eventually it will get easier and you will start to become more interested with other hobbies and much happier.
You seriously need to clean your system of this person. Its hard for you to separate the friendship and infatuation so its best to cut it all off. Otherwise you are only making it more difficult for yourself.
Second of all, TELL SOMEONE about the pills! Another friend or even family member. Yes, the person you tell may be very upset, or hurt, but the help that you need is worth the risk. Your family WILL help you! It is much much easier to conquer something with the help of others, even if its in the form of tough love.
I have been heartbroken before, and I am sure I will be again. its a part of life but the difference is how you choose to deal with it.
';the truth is everyone is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for'; - Bob MarleyWhat happens when you fall in love with someone but they don't feel the same way? HELP!!! PLEASE!?
Well I would get myself more in-shape and more attractive.
What happens when you fall in love with someone but they don't feel the same way?
Okay this will be kinda long but I really need your advice cause i am desperate. Lately i have posted a lot of questions pertaining to this topic but have yet to find something that really helps so I'm going to reword it. I am in LOVE with this girl. Were good friends for about 2 years. Not like hanging out a lot but talking and texting a lot. We did hang out many times though. I shared a lot of stuff with her that i normally wouldn't tell anyone because i can be kinda insecure sometimes. She isn't my first love or anything but the only one i cannot get over. I have been through a rough break up before, but got over it eventually, in a month or so. But this time it is different because i never dated her. One day I decided to tell her that I liked her and she just sorta went around it and said that there were other guys and stuff but she's not dating anyone and hasn't been for a long time. This happened about 4 months ago and i was all right with it at first. But as time passes i get more and more depressed. I have acquired a taste for prescription drugs even, hydrocodone to be exact, also know as lortab. The pain killers give me a feel to which i no longer care that she doesn't love and i just admire her beauty and think about what a great person she is. The pills scare me tho because i have overdosed many times. They have caused me much physical sickness. I tried to take 20 in 24 hours before which should kill you and i puked for 2 days. Why does she make me do this to myself, well i know it only me but my feelings make me. I have spent a lot of time with her and know a lot about her and there isn't one thing that i don't love about her. She is nearly perfect with a few flaws that i like anyways. I even tear up sometimes when I'm high and thinking about her. Which is usually for me because i am usually a loud-ish and care free kinda person. I am extremely intelligent and so is she, 1300 on sat each and good schools. But she has really changed me. I love her so much and cannot stand not be with her. Since i told her that i liked her we stayed the same for a while but once i found the drugs i distanced myself greatly from her. I even ignore texts anymore and limit physical interact to a simple hi and small talk. I don't want her to find out about the stupidest choice of my life, drugs. But the pain is just to bad. When i feel really down i write about her. I filled up my blackberry and had to delete it all so i could receive texts. I also write on my mac and have over 15 pages. It makes me feel so gay to be so crushed by a single girl. i just wish she could know how i feel without telling her and making a bigger fool out of myself. I don't know what to do know. I am slowly getting of the drugs, I'll be completely off them within a month I'm determined. I want to tell her how i feel but don't know how. What do I do next? Thanks in advance for any help, i really appreciate it.What happens when you fall in love with someone but they don't feel the same way? HELP!!! PLEASE!?
wow, there are a few more issues going on here other than loving her. The drugs were the worst mistake you could have made! You combine that with your sort of sorrow and depression and you will end up with a fatal error.
NO ONE is hopelessly in love with someone forever. It sounds redundant but its the only true advice. In time this shall pass. But you need to do more to help yourself. STOP obsessing, like writing about her. That just re-enforces your infatuation.
It feels impossible, but you need to pick yourself up and get involved with other things. Sports, a group of friends, school, your job, family, exercise, setting some goals and accomplishing them.....anything to help keep you pre-occupied and interesting in something else. Yes this will be extremely difficult, but eventually it will get easier and you will start to become more interested with other hobbies and much happier.
You seriously need to clean your system of this person. Its hard for you to separate the friendship and infatuation so its best to cut it all off. Otherwise you are only making it more difficult for yourself.
Second of all, TELL SOMEONE about the pills! Another friend or even family member. Yes, the person you tell may be very upset, or hurt, but the help that you need is worth the risk. Your family WILL help you! It is much much easier to conquer something with the help of others, even if its in the form of tough love.
I have been heartbroken before, and I am sure I will be again. its a part of life but the difference is how you choose to deal with it.
';the truth is everyone is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for'; - Bob MarleyWhat happens when you fall in love with someone but they don't feel the same way? HELP!!! PLEASE!?
Well I would get myself more in-shape and more attractive.
We love. But fell out of love. We broke up. Now what? can we ever fall in love again after becoming friends?
Ok this is a continuation from my other post before...
but my girlfriend did say in the break up that she loves me. But is not in love with me. She also said that it's not about me.
I felt these lines were so cliche..and told her so...but she said that in this case, they are true and not cliche.
She loves me...loves me as a person...cares for me...but is not in love.This happened to me too...after she lied..and we fought...I lost the passion. but i still cared and loved her.
She also said I did nothing wrong...and that the argument over HER lying...(she admitted she screwed up) had taken a toll and that she feels defeated now and thinks the relationship is not salvageable.
She admits and takes responsibility for it all...and even starting crying saying she is upset we didn't work out.
Then she wants to become good friends again...and is open to us again in the future if thats how things go..if it's natural and it happens..she will be open to it. But she wants to concentrate on becoming friends again and building trust (that she broke) and seeing where it leads.
And she also said she wouldn't be actively pursuing others during this time...
as per my question...we fell out of love...but seem to still care and love.
I currently feel defeated by her and believe she needs councelling.
It's been almost 3 months since split..
do u think u can fall in love with someone u were once heavily in love with, if u get over your fight and learn to trust again?
We love. But fell out of love. We broke up. Now what? can we ever fall in love again after becoming friends?
I think anything is possible in this situation.
It also sounds like your ex knows she has some issues to work out, and that she needs some space to sort out her feelings and re-establish trust between you, and that taking a break from each other would be good for both of you.
And I think she's being authentic (not cliche BS) when she says its not about you, and that she loves you but isn't romantically, sexually ';in love'; with you.
You both obviously still care for each other, and that's not likely to change.
So I think the thing for you to do is be patient. Keep in touch with your ex -- call her occasionally, ';hey, how are things going?'; that kind of thing -- keep it light and upbeat -- with the goal of slowly but surely rebuilding a friendship between you. But you can't force the issue. And it may take a long time. Be patient.
Bottom line -- if its meant to happen for the two of you to be together in a committed romantic relationship, then it will; if not, then in time, you'll be on best friend terms with your ex and move on to a new romance with someone else. We love. But fell out of love. We broke up. Now what? can we ever fall in love again after becoming friends?
Something like that happened to me before. I broke up with my partner when I still love her. Now that she is gone, I feel very lonely and I realise I could not fall in love again. I guess my heart is still with her.
time will tell
';....thinks the relationship is not salvageable.....'; What more can she tell you than this statement.
Look, don't make the same mistake I did as well as countless others who try to save a relationship--- this is the Titanic--- jump ship and move on. Her decisions to get her crap together are soley up to her and not you. You are not the ';emotional red cross.';
Find another and put this awful sitaution behind you.
Well here's my advice love has a funny way to getting to people if shes seems to want to get back together and you kind of want to to. Then don't let it stop you. You seem like a great guy so don't be afraid of love go with your heart completely it usually makes you happy. If you don't have a clue if she wants to get back together just watch out for little signs like her and you having a conversation and she's brings up something that is kind of in the question do you have a girlfriend. That is one of the major signs because once they know your open they will flirt and be your friend but be a little more flirty. There's my advice if it doesn't help I'm sorry I'm not an expert in love I have problems to right now but I wish you happiness and you find your one love and live happily ever after.
Anything is possible when it comes to love, I split from my first husband years ago. a few years later we started contacting each other just to see how the other was..guess what--we feel in love all over again and everything in the past just flew out the window. Sometimes people just need time to grow a little to discover themselves before they can be totally true to anyone. Just go with the flow and see what happens later, don't push anything or rush into anything. She just needs some time to find herself.ltd music myspace
but my girlfriend did say in the break up that she loves me. But is not in love with me. She also said that it's not about me.
I felt these lines were so cliche..and told her so...but she said that in this case, they are true and not cliche.
She loves me...loves me as a person...cares for me...but is not in love.This happened to me too...after she lied..and we fought...I lost the passion. but i still cared and loved her.
She also said I did nothing wrong...and that the argument over HER lying...(she admitted she screwed up) had taken a toll and that she feels defeated now and thinks the relationship is not salvageable.
She admits and takes responsibility for it all...and even starting crying saying she is upset we didn't work out.
Then she wants to become good friends again...and is open to us again in the future if thats how things go..if it's natural and it happens..she will be open to it. But she wants to concentrate on becoming friends again and building trust (that she broke) and seeing where it leads.
And she also said she wouldn't be actively pursuing others during this time...
as per my question...we fell out of love...but seem to still care and love.
I currently feel defeated by her and believe she needs councelling.
It's been almost 3 months since split..
do u think u can fall in love with someone u were once heavily in love with, if u get over your fight and learn to trust again?
We love. But fell out of love. We broke up. Now what? can we ever fall in love again after becoming friends?
I think anything is possible in this situation.
It also sounds like your ex knows she has some issues to work out, and that she needs some space to sort out her feelings and re-establish trust between you, and that taking a break from each other would be good for both of you.
And I think she's being authentic (not cliche BS) when she says its not about you, and that she loves you but isn't romantically, sexually ';in love'; with you.
You both obviously still care for each other, and that's not likely to change.
So I think the thing for you to do is be patient. Keep in touch with your ex -- call her occasionally, ';hey, how are things going?'; that kind of thing -- keep it light and upbeat -- with the goal of slowly but surely rebuilding a friendship between you. But you can't force the issue. And it may take a long time. Be patient.
Bottom line -- if its meant to happen for the two of you to be together in a committed romantic relationship, then it will; if not, then in time, you'll be on best friend terms with your ex and move on to a new romance with someone else. We love. But fell out of love. We broke up. Now what? can we ever fall in love again after becoming friends?
Something like that happened to me before. I broke up with my partner when I still love her. Now that she is gone, I feel very lonely and I realise I could not fall in love again. I guess my heart is still with her.
time will tell
';....thinks the relationship is not salvageable.....'; What more can she tell you than this statement.
Look, don't make the same mistake I did as well as countless others who try to save a relationship--- this is the Titanic--- jump ship and move on. Her decisions to get her crap together are soley up to her and not you. You are not the ';emotional red cross.';
Find another and put this awful sitaution behind you.
Well here's my advice love has a funny way to getting to people if shes seems to want to get back together and you kind of want to to. Then don't let it stop you. You seem like a great guy so don't be afraid of love go with your heart completely it usually makes you happy. If you don't have a clue if she wants to get back together just watch out for little signs like her and you having a conversation and she's brings up something that is kind of in the question do you have a girlfriend. That is one of the major signs because once they know your open they will flirt and be your friend but be a little more flirty. There's my advice if it doesn't help I'm sorry I'm not an expert in love I have problems to right now but I wish you happiness and you find your one love and live happily ever after.
Anything is possible when it comes to love, I split from my first husband years ago. a few years later we started contacting each other just to see how the other was..guess what--we feel in love all over again and everything in the past just flew out the window. Sometimes people just need time to grow a little to discover themselves before they can be totally true to anyone. Just go with the flow and see what happens later, don't push anything or rush into anything. She just needs some time to find herself.
Why do we fall in love with someone who doesn't love us?
I fell in love with someone who I thought was in love with me. And I found out that wasn't the case, I gave that person the best of me and for that person I'm just nobody. It's been years that we've been together (intimite). And now for me its hard just to forget what we had. What Can I Do? I try to talk to the person and just ignores me. I try to do everything to get the persons attention but It just doesn't work. Can the person forget what we had? I haven't told the person how I feel. Its hard, I started writing letters and giving it to the person and one day told me to stop. So I did. In those letters I told the person how I felt.Why do we fall in love with someone who doesn't love us?
well they say tht by being a human u always want what u cant have.and when u get wat u cldnt have then ur not happy with it and u want somehing else.its like unwritten rules of lifeWhy do we fall in love with someone who doesn't love us?
Wow you have a tough one there, but since it is so hard how can you forget all the times that you had with this person only for this person to have turned there feelings off like a stove.
I don't understand how this person sleeps at night knowing that he did another person this way! And if he does sleep at night peacefully then that means that this person has no conscience at all. At this point you have a man that wants out of this relationship and don't have the guts to be a real man and tell you the truth. He had you doing all these things and I bet he was getting a real thrill from you doing it.
All those letters you sent you just wasted your time it should have been obvious to you that he wasn't interested in you in any way shape or form. (Please don't be offended at me I just want to tell you how it is!)
To me you seem like a sensitive person and loving enough to take that stuff from him in the first place which is a real surprise that you put up with it for so long in the first place. You truly are a good woman to have done that because not most women would have done that in a million years.
That would have been the end of that! But you have a chance to clear your head now let this man go and move to a man who will appreciate you for what and who you are! You deserve to be treated better than that and trust me there are men that would love to be with you if you only give it a chance.
Just give it a thought and think about what I am saying to you, You have a life to live and time is short you don't have to waste your time on a zero that has not one bit of courtesy to tell you the truth and that makes him to me a coward and not a man.
Girl get you a real man and I hope you find that happiness that you need. Because it is out there just waiting for someone like you to come.
Good luck and God Bless You!
Love,
Beagirl:)
ITS HUMAN NATURE TO WANT WHAT WE CANT HAVE
well,the first line of your question made me think taht that is the beginning of love..i mean no ralationship would start with both the partners being absolitely crazy for one another.
But that is not the case here. so we know it pains the heart to face something like this.but here is a situation where two people are concerned but just one has to take the full blow of its intensity....s/he may not love you but morally s/he would have to make things improve by letting you know what s/he thinks/feels and help you forget him/her, as tath is what looks like. s/he should accept to listen to yo;u and find a way out that is soft and bearable.
If i had a chance i would say to this person '; come on , y not help this person out, and remember saying taht you love this him/her is not the only way out.Your complete ignorance and hostility is killing her/him.';
It is hard when you are attracted to someone who doesn't feel the same way, but for your own sanity you have to let go and move on. He's made it clear to you he isn't interested. You have to accept that and move on, you won't change his mind.
It hurts %26amp; you'll never understand why. Now you have to learn to make your self move on. %26amp; next time don't be so needy-let them indulge You. His loss-YOU Have got to move on or they'll think your obsessed or psyco.
ITS THE TYPICAL SCENARIO WE WANT WHAT WE CANT HAVE DONT GET CAUGHT UP TRYING TO FIGURE IT OUT IT WILL DESTROY YOU
i feel sorry for you don't worry same thing with me i like a person but i realize he doesn't love me its more better to love some one who love you than to love someone these things happen don't waste your time give it to some one else probably there is a person who you know and loves you deeply your love is waiting for you out there don't delay it because someone broke your heart good luck you can like plenty people but only one person will understand you and you can understand that person that will be true love
well they say tht by being a human u always want what u cant have.and when u get wat u cldnt have then ur not happy with it and u want somehing else.its like unwritten rules of lifeWhy do we fall in love with someone who doesn't love us?
Wow you have a tough one there, but since it is so hard how can you forget all the times that you had with this person only for this person to have turned there feelings off like a stove.
I don't understand how this person sleeps at night knowing that he did another person this way! And if he does sleep at night peacefully then that means that this person has no conscience at all. At this point you have a man that wants out of this relationship and don't have the guts to be a real man and tell you the truth. He had you doing all these things and I bet he was getting a real thrill from you doing it.
All those letters you sent you just wasted your time it should have been obvious to you that he wasn't interested in you in any way shape or form. (Please don't be offended at me I just want to tell you how it is!)
To me you seem like a sensitive person and loving enough to take that stuff from him in the first place which is a real surprise that you put up with it for so long in the first place. You truly are a good woman to have done that because not most women would have done that in a million years.
That would have been the end of that! But you have a chance to clear your head now let this man go and move to a man who will appreciate you for what and who you are! You deserve to be treated better than that and trust me there are men that would love to be with you if you only give it a chance.
Just give it a thought and think about what I am saying to you, You have a life to live and time is short you don't have to waste your time on a zero that has not one bit of courtesy to tell you the truth and that makes him to me a coward and not a man.
Girl get you a real man and I hope you find that happiness that you need. Because it is out there just waiting for someone like you to come.
Good luck and God Bless You!
Love,
Beagirl:)
ITS HUMAN NATURE TO WANT WHAT WE CANT HAVE
well,the first line of your question made me think taht that is the beginning of love..i mean no ralationship would start with both the partners being absolitely crazy for one another.
But that is not the case here. so we know it pains the heart to face something like this.but here is a situation where two people are concerned but just one has to take the full blow of its intensity....s/he may not love you but morally s/he would have to make things improve by letting you know what s/he thinks/feels and help you forget him/her, as tath is what looks like. s/he should accept to listen to yo;u and find a way out that is soft and bearable.
If i had a chance i would say to this person '; come on , y not help this person out, and remember saying taht you love this him/her is not the only way out.Your complete ignorance and hostility is killing her/him.';
It is hard when you are attracted to someone who doesn't feel the same way, but for your own sanity you have to let go and move on. He's made it clear to you he isn't interested. You have to accept that and move on, you won't change his mind.
It hurts %26amp; you'll never understand why. Now you have to learn to make your self move on. %26amp; next time don't be so needy-let them indulge You. His loss-YOU Have got to move on or they'll think your obsessed or psyco.
ITS THE TYPICAL SCENARIO WE WANT WHAT WE CANT HAVE DONT GET CAUGHT UP TRYING TO FIGURE IT OUT IT WILL DESTROY YOU
i feel sorry for you don't worry same thing with me i like a person but i realize he doesn't love me its more better to love some one who love you than to love someone these things happen don't waste your time give it to some one else probably there is a person who you know and loves you deeply your love is waiting for you out there don't delay it because someone broke your heart good luck you can like plenty people but only one person will understand you and you can understand that person that will be true love
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