-CAN- we choose to fall -out- of love? and -SHOULD- i choose to fall -out- of love.?

a couple of years ago, i went out with x. i chose to go out with x. i knew i didnt like x but i chose to go out with him for various reasons.. not very good reasons i'll admit. but thats all in the past now. i didnt 'fall' in love with x, i chose to.. and the relationship was a complete flop.





now ive 'fallen' in love with y. ive been friends with y for over 4 yrs. i never expected to fall for y. for a whole year, i managed to hide how i felt about y. just recently, y found out how i felt but i know y is not ready for a relationship now... because of the last relationship breakup that y is still getting over/coming to terms with.





should i just 'get over' y? i have been telling myself that for the past year: i keep telling myself to get over y before i get carried away %26amp; cause problems for all of us (me, y and y's ex) but it is so hard to %26amp; i am reluctant to let go of y. its hard cos i see y nearly every day.





so my question is, -can- we choose to stop loving someone, and -should- i?-CAN- we choose to fall -out- of love? and -SHOULD- i choose to fall -out- of love.?
u cant just stop loving someone because it is bad timing but u can wait until y is ready