Work really hard to get those feelings back. Love feelings wane and spark up again. Life brings a lot of distractions that can take away those loving feelings. Sometimes you really do have to work to keep that love alive and kicking.
Think about all the things you appreciate about your partner. Think about the good things they do. Think about how you first met and how lucky you felt when your partner agreed to marry you.
Start doing little things to show appreciation to your partner. It really does work. The more you act like you are in love, the more that love comes back.
Just the fact that you asked this question, shows you still care deeply.
Good luck.How can you start loving someone you think you have fallen out of love with, amd you are married to?
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Try to find in him what it was that got you two together in the first place. Relationships are very tricky, you can fall in and out of love with someone all the time,but sadly if it can not be resolved, would it not be best to move on,for both your sakes?
I wish I knew!! I think it is important to remember that you need to try and find why you first fell in love and got married. Do things together and try to recall those moments, and TALK about the problems, if you can. Good luck, I wish you all the best.
in my personal experience i couldnt! after 20 yrs together, honestly it started too go a few years back, i tried and tried, told him how i felt, needed to get out of that boring rut, didnt want alot, just the occaisonal night out, a little help with the kids, he never put them too bed! even that would of been nice, a little help at home, i did everything, if i asked if he loved me i got i shag ya dont i!!!! july last year i was done with trying and left and im so happy, i live with a new man and its great, i know you get that new thing, cant keep youre hand off but its different, if you wanna try go for it, if not lovely walk, all the best xx
Everybody has times like this. Just relax and think of all the good things he/she did. Quit steaming up over the little bad things. Remember, you have those bad qualities too and maybe he/she has felt that way as well.
be sure that the counterpart does the same as you do before attemp
start by spending some time together without anyone else. you will soon find what got you together in the first place. we have all been there. good luck and take care x
Depends why you have fallen out of love and if it's worth holding on to, is it just boredom or something more serious either way good luck
I thought I loved my Husband until he was unfaithful,now every-day I find another reason why I don't love him,and truly wished it would have happened years ago,it would have released me from the horrible rut we were in,sometimes you just have to cut your loss and move on,but if not then go to Relate.
Happy S you probably are still in love with her.
We all get in a rut. I have been married for 20 years
and for years had no sex life. We drifted apart.
Then the unthinkable happened. I found out that
my husband was cheating by having a 'cyber' affair.
With someone close to us. It was a terrible shock.
But it made me realise that I did love him after all.
Initially I was going to kick him out. But then we started
talking like we should have done years ago. We both
wanted each other. We have got through this and are
happier now than we were when we first met!!
I AM NOT saying tell your wife to have an affair. But
to imagine she were in love with someone else. Ask
yourself - How would you feel? You will be surprised.
Talk to your wife and let her know how you feel She
might feel the same as you - so start courting again.
Put a new angle on your life. Get out of the rut. I hope
you can find the love - it was there once. You just need
it to resurface.
Talk to a therapist. They will allow you to express all your feelings, thoughts, desires, anything to find your inner self. There is nothing wrong with you. Everyone goes through this. I tend to think we tend to grow accustomed to the other person where it gets dull. All you can do is to figure out things with yourself. Experiences and communication make people find their way back.
I think you probably care about them more than you think. If they were to announce tomorrow that they were leaving and not coming back, would you miss them? Probably yes. Love is a funny thing, especially in marriage, it varies from perfect romance to perfect loathing and all stages in between but the fact is that person is half of you. Good luck.
I guess you would have to try to rekindle what you once had. You need to spend lots of time together and figure out why you fell out of love and fix the problem first before you can love the same again.
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