Do I really know how to love someone, or do I just fall for everyone?

I am soon to be divorced. I have been examining my love life over the past five or six years, and I am wondering if I really know how to love someone, or do I just think that I fall in love with everyone I'm with.





I never dated in high school, my parents didn't allow it. I went on my very first date when I was in college. I really liked the guy (I'll call him Bob). Bob and I went on a triple date and it went really well. Shortly after that date, he didn't talk to me and avoided me. And that was that. A little while after that I started hanging out with another guy, we'll call him Bill. I REALLY liked him. He and I really got along well and went on a really romantic date. I even met his parents. The day after I met his parents, he broke up with me because they did not approve of me. I was crushed. A few months later I met Brian (okay, I'm stuck on B names, lol). And we hit it off! He was great. After two or three months of dating, he told me he loved me, and I felt the same way. Our problem was that when we weren't at college, the distance between us was quite large. Every year on summer break we broke up, I think it was just because we couldn't handle the distance. But when we came back to college, we got back together. His parents didn't really like me either, but we got back together, and eventually got engaged. I was really excited to start planning our wedding. When I went home at Christmas, I didn't plan on returning to college because of finances. After a couple of months, things were getting tough again. I asked Brian and begged him to PLEASE come visit me. I would have paid for his ticket, hotel, everything, and he refused. That was the end of it. A couple of months later, I met my soon to be ex husband. We only knew each other for a couple of months before we got married, and then a couple of months later I got pregnant. Things seriously deteriorated from there. I won't go into details, but I was more than justified in leaving him. Since leaving him, I have met a couple of guys, and one that I thought I loved. Haven't heard from him in almost two weeks.





Looking back, I can honestly say that the feelings I felt for Bill and Brian was the strongest. I just don't know if I really actually know what love is, or if I'm just going along with warm and fuzzy feelings.





I long for that swept away feeling, to feel safe in someones arms. To know that his heart beats only for me.





I would appreciate kind advice, please. Thank you.Do I really know how to love someone, or do I just fall for everyone?
Im sorry to hear that you're getting divorced btu I think that you went with your warm an fuzzy feelings. Maybe it was all due to you not being able to date when you were in high school, and looking at other girls with their boyfriends made you want to have someone close to you and the affection and well i guess you weren't prerared but you made a mistake and now you're learning from it. don't beat yourself too hard, next time your in a realtionship get to know that person well allow a couple of years or a year at least and dont go with what your heart tells you untill you're sure because trust me the heart can sometimes lie. good luck =)Do I really know how to love someone, or do I just fall for everyone?
Maybe you are in love with the idea of being in love?
I would think after all these guys you would get it straight . Give yourself till you are 45 ...then you'll figure it out . By the way .... the one that stayed in your heart is love . Its not wrong that you have dated alot . Hope you were picky in the physical aspect of it all. The man of your dreams will have it all ... All the good things you found in all the others and there won't be anyone to fill his shoes . good luck!