How do you just fall out of love with someone?

My gf and i dated for 9 months and she says we were around each other too much and she fell out of love with me, but i just don't get it, she told me all along she wanted to be with me for the rest of her life and marry me, she says she fell out of love with me since we were wround each other 24/7 but i just don't get how in that short of a time you can switch from being completely and madly in love with someone and want to be their wife to just not being in love with them anymore. And it's not like we fought and bickered miserably all the time.... I just don't get it, please explain if you can....How do you just fall out of love with someone?
you might want to be in the commitment with her, but she might not have felt the same way. your level of love with her might have been much higher than the way she felt about you.How do you just fall out of love with someone?
What she is saying might be true, but behind that saying is I am interested in someone else and I want to give them a try, but I can't do it if we are together all the time, so I think you should at least thank her for having a conscience. She is feeling someone else at the moment and its not you sorry though.
well that's wht happen to me and mi gf..we dated 4 like 2 years..nd like i jus hang around her to much nd like talk to her to much..n like i jus thought of her as a best friend..it was weird bc like i wasnt feeling the vibe between us anymore..like i kno your pose to be around yur lover and tlk to them but not lie every second every day..bc then the vibe goes away..hope i helped...





p.s..maybe yall just were meant to be friends not lovers...or maybe she just needed a break..if it was meant to be it will find its way back
Okay man im going through the same thing basicly i had the same thing happen exept weve been together 10 months almost 11 and we have done everything... what you need to do is hold on tight you may not get her back you may i know your dying inside but if you love her as much as you think you do than you need to let her be you should just want her to be happy. There is most likely another reason. try to figure out what it is but just dont make any stupid decisons...
love is simply a work to describe a chemical reaction, if being around each other no longer produces the reaction, than she will, as you yo put it, fall out of love.
well obviously she likes some other guy.


and maybe she found out you cheated on her.


and maybe she never really was in love with you, she just said those to keep you there for a little while longer.


and oh yeah... don't hit on her sister.
i dont think it can happen if you TRULY love someone....i have been with by bf for almost three years and we love eachother like crazy.......





i think some people just get bored or they met someone else or they realize they really dont love you.





they r just not trying hard enough
You can spend too much time together just like people WHO are married get bored with the same old same old stuff when the get married


it may not be romantic love 24/7 but Romantic love seldom last!
it just happens, she had a change of heart for some reason. you could ask her for the brutal truth as to why i guess, if you assure her that its ok whatever she says
You start to look at them in a different way %26amp; the shroud of illusion lifts.





Love is brain chemicals. We're all nothing more than bio-electrical machines.
this happens a lot with wemen. give it about 3 weeks and she might fall back in love with you
wheres your brain?
sometimes it just happens


from experience i say she found someone else
Maybe she cheated on you.
2 tell you the truth LOVE is just a word alot of people abuse
you cant....it sounds like you grew apart and thats what she is saying....
boys can forget about a Girl Reilly fast but girls cant for some reason
are you lez?
Being around someone too much can cause these things to happen. the things you once thought were cute and made you love someone more suddenly become grating and intolerable, but by then youve already said they are cute so you cant say anything. that then builds up inside of you. falling out of love isthe point where the bad things you associate with someone start to outweigh the reasons you love someone and then it is usually too late and probably time to move on. for only nine months of dating i wouldn't worry too much about meanings behind things because this is a relatively short time to date someone and have a relationship run its full course. in this case it is probably just the she wanted to gracefully tell you she was ready to move on. don't take it personally or think too much of what it means unless you are engaged or married, that is when backing out of a relationship means something much more than just getting tired of someone.
There were probably warning signs.. she pulled away from wanting to just spend time with you, and she probably seemed distant at times. Unfortunately, anymore its easy to fall out of love because people leave people for dumb reasons. It's the 80-20 rule, you have someone that gives you 80 percent of what you need, but then you see that 20 percent you don't and it looks good at the moment, but in the long run it's not as good as you thought. She may regret this later, but if you are a good guy then you'll find someone that may be more compatible.
You sound young, but love isn't that simple. I don't beleive that love ever dies, I believe that it changes, and if she truly did/does love you then maybe being around you so often she started to realize what that love meant, and it wasn't a ';I want to be with you'; but more of a ';I care about you a lot';.





If she says she loves you no more, then maybe it really wasn't love, but while 9 months seems like forever, it's not that long when you speak about forever. If it's meant to be, I'm sure it will find a way, but in my honest opinion, it wasn't love, it was infatuation and as time goes, unlike with love, infatuation fades, while love doesn't.