It takes less than a moment to fall 'in love' with the *idea* of someone.
It takes less than an hour to become infatuated with someone.
Falling truly in love with a person takes more time and energy. To be truly 'in love' with another person, you have to know them well and love what you know. This is why we see so many, who mistake infatuation for love, weeping over the loss of........well, what?
The person you may or may not be infatuated with may not be the person you think them to be, at all, and as you get close enough to them, and they to you, you might, either or each, find things about one another that you find unhealthy, unacceptable, or contrary to what your original opinion may have been.
Love is not based on appearance and desire, though they can certainly be part of the equation. Love is founded, if it really *is* love, on a stronger foundation. Love roots itself in mutual respect, admiration and adoration, as well as a *developed* desire to share at least a portion of your life close to that person. Not just share a bed or 'hanging out,' but sharing what it means to be alive and part of life with another person. If that isn't what it amounts to, it's not love, but infatuation.
I am not denying that infatuation can resemble, in characteristic, love, nor am I saying that infatuation isn't, in and of itself, valid. What I *am* saying is that infatuation is not love. Infatuation is far more fleeting and temperamental than love. It feels like love, but is something of an imitator in that regard.
You don't love someone you don't know well. If you know all there is to know about them and still feel that burning need to share life with them, then call it love.
Regardless of which it is, the loss of it can be emotionally devastating. Part and parcel of what it means to be an emotional being, I'm afraid. Nothing to do but pick up and move on.How long do you think it takes to fall in love with someone?
I know that personally I may love someone from the first time I talk to them. Talk about love at first conversation! Homoromantic asexuals probably aren't who you're lookng for to answer, but hey. I know there are some people I was right about when I decided they blew my mind after a few minutes, but others took a while for me to realize that they were using me and didn't actually love me as deeply as I love them. Tough stuff, but love at first conversation isn't ALWAYS wrong. Sometimes you can get lucky and love someone special from day one.
depends on the person
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