How to fall out of love with someone you spent years living with?

he was abusive, cheated on me, lied, and left me. How do I fall out of love? I keep remembering the way he kissed my cheek at night before he went to work.How to fall out of love with someone you spent years living with?
How about start remembering how he abused you, cheated on you, lied to you, and left you? I am being serious... that is what you need to do and... when you are in a little better shape, start dating. You will forget about him the minute you have another man... What you are experiencing is not love; it is something else and it will pass if you stop nurturing it. Best of luck!How to fall out of love with someone you spent years living with?
I think it's OK to retain your good memories. Don't stress over forcing yourself to forget.





But you obviously recognize his bad points too. Sounds like you are better off without him.





Also, it sounds like you have feelings of loneliness and nostalgia -- more than ';love'; really.





Find another guy to kiss your cheek, and you won't miss your ex so much.





(edit) ';I feel crazy for loving someone who didn't always treat me too well.'; Don't beat yourself up over your feelings. It's not crazy. Happens to the best of us. Just don't let it hold you back from moving forward in your life and finding happiness again. YOU WILL BE HAPPY AGAIN. But in a different (better) situation with a different (better) person. I know it's tough now, but I know you'll get there. Peace.
i hate to tell you this but you never actually ever get over someone who have been with for a long time, its more a case of adapting differently and doing things differently he will always be there at the back of your mind, for now you need to learn how to live with out him, and how to accept living with out him. You will always have feelings for him but its how you controll them feeling, like when your feeling really low like now, your thinking of him, until the day comes when you seek friendly advice from a friend and you don't think about him every-time something goes wrong, then your half way there. he hurt you physically and mentally, im not going to say you can do better because right now im not sure that's what you want to hear. Give yourself time and do things you would not normally do, very slowly but surely you will be a new woman with more confidence and plenty of ambition something that he probably kicked out of you. Now come up cheer up, im sure there is Mr right out there to spend a few fun nights out with, but please do not get into any relationships just yet, the person will only end up the rebound or your relationship. All the best Ellie.x
You have to come to the conclusion that this guy is bad for you. It's true, so convince yourself of it. Then, cut off all contact with him. Don't talk, or write to him, and don't answer his calls, or emails. Put away or throw away anything that reminds you of him. After you have done these things, you will simply have to wait it out. You'll still think about him once in a while, but over time it will become less and less.





There is no easy way to get over someone, so don't look for an easy way out. You will suffer a bit, but will come out of this experience stronger.
Well thats the problem with love is ...once you have given your heart to someone .....its really hard to get over it when you dont get the same feelings back ....you feel betrayed . But the most important think about love is you truely havent fallen in love until you have found your soul mate ...this person who you love doesnt deserve it ....and surely isnt your soul mate ....you must always remember there is someone out there waiting to sweep you off your feet and love you for what you are .....you just have to wait for him ....and this fellow is more like a learning curve ...before you appreciate the good you must know he bad ....dont worry ...with new people he will just be another memory !!!!!!!
u can't just get over something like that so quickly. it's a process which can be long. don't try to rush urself n another relationship too cuz u might get hurt again. so i say wait til u know for a fact that ur over him
erase everything you have of him... throw away pictures.. burn them. anything you have he gave you throw away.. best way. it works...
It will happen with time.