Is it possible to fall back in love with someone once you've fallen out of love?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 and a half years now. Last year he told me that he was going through depression and that he just didn't love anything anymore. Including me. He told me that he wanted to fall back in love with me but he couldn't because I always sabotage anything good we have going on and I always argue with him. We fight ALL THE TIME. We always fight because of me. I'm incredibly insecure and ask him questions constantly. I did not used to be this way. I was such a free spirit with not a care in the world. Used to laugh and always was in a good mood. The thing is though, I am seriously in love with him and want us to be happy together. He is such a level headed guy and laid back but I am severely paranoid when I have absolutely nothing to be paranoid about. He has never given me a reason not to trust him. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I want him to fall in love with me again and be happy with me. But he can't because I can't change no matter how hard I try. So if I really did change and be the person he fell in love with in the first place and chill out, is it possible for him to fall back in love with me again?Is it possible to fall back in love with someone once you've fallen out of love?
Im the same as you and I know exactly what you are talking about.You need to realise that you cannot change eachother, as much as is what you both want for the relationship. You have an ideal in your head of what you want. So does he, and he isnt satisfied anymore. I have learnt from my previous 4 year relationship that you cannot fix relationship dynamix! When your paranoia rises from your subconscious you cannot help but let it out in some form. Whether you maybe start a very involved hobbie to let out some of those conflicting thought or find a friend to vent to, but you cannot stop those feeling rise.


I really hope you find some way of expressing yourself so that you can find happiness with your boyfriend. I can really relate to you. I have been through that, and yes the relationship ended. But I have found another love that is fantastic.





I hope this helps. All the bestIs it possible to fall back in love with someone once you've fallen out of love?
I'm in the exact same position you are right now, only my boyfriend isn't in love with me. But we won't get into that, its a huge complicated mess. But yes, I do think that will help. If you have no reason to be paranoid, if you trust him.. then TRUST him. Show him and just lay back a little. Let him know you care and you love him more than anything, if you truly do. Give him room to breathe, but not too much space that you become unhappy yourself.
You probably need to examine why you changed, maybe why he changed too. Right now it sounds like you've both drifted and maybe you're staying together out of routine more than anything?





Is counseling feasible for you? Or both of you? Maybe your relationship is stuck in a rut?





The thing everyone should really keep in mind in a relationship is that you both wanted to be in it and either party can end it at any time. That isn't meant to be depressing, it's meant to relieve your paranoia. He would be gone if he didn't want to be with you.





Good Luck!