What happens when you fall out of love with someone???

I have been with my boyfriend for the past four years we just had a child and I am as unhappy as ever.. During the past four years I have gone thru physical,mental and, emotional abuse and now I am to the point that I think I hate him and cant get over what he has done and what he has said to me.. How do you finally say enough is enough??What happens when you fall out of love with someone???
Sounds to me like you didn't fall out of love...you were 'forced' out.





First of all, plan it out. Open a savings account that he doesn't know about and put as much as you can possibly spare into it...even if it's HIS money (if you aren't employed). You'll need money to get a place of your own when the time comes. Set a timeline for yourself of when you want to get out...and stick to it. Don't even tell him you're thinking of leaving...wait until your plan is in place and then...just leave.





Secondly...keep your goals firmly planted in your mind. This will help you deal with being in the current situation, knowing that it's going to end one day...soon. You may even find that setting goals, will lessen his power over you...nothing is more demoralizing than thinking you have no options. Keep a calender with your ';date of departure'; circled and mark off each day that passes...I know this sounds strange...but it's what people in prison do to keep themselves sane. You HAVE to see a light at the end.





And remember...baby steps. Don't overwhelm yourself trying to think too far ahead.





Good Luck.What happens when you fall out of love with someone???
You leave. Simple and hard as that.
It's time to leave. Your quality of life sounds like it's at an all time low.
If he abused you why the hell are you still with him? Take your child and get out of there.
You just said it. Now all you have to do is get enough courage to listen to yourself. When that time comes, you'll know in a split second. What you do then is up to you. Whatever that may be, do it with just yourself and your child.
Simply and honestly. Don't expect there is a way to 'lessen the blow' especially if YOU are the only one who wants out.





Although, if there has been abuse, I would suggest not seeking counsel here. I would go to a therapist who could give you some tools to heal those wounds... As well as someone experienced in matters of violence, as there is a posibility of danger in leaving.
You've got to say that to yourself first.





This is about you as much as him. He isn't good for you, but you've stayed with him. The reasons you've not left sooner are yours. Some might be external (';My baby needs a dad'; and ';How will I survive financially?';) but some are very much internal- they're about you and your need to have someone permanent in your life.





You've got to make the decision to leave, then tie up loose ends. The abuse implies a need for a restraining order. Any financial problems will mean you have to get an attorney to advise regarding child support and alimony. Might be time to mend bridges with family- can you move in with your family? Expect a lower living standard. But look forward to life without this guy's behavior making you unhappy.





Sounds like you've been unhappy, and the baby didn't fix things. You'll have some bumps in the road to get past, but you'll survive. Be well ... -r
Tell him how you feel maybe he thinks everything is OK with your relationship. Make sure he understands how you really feel. Tell him you will leave him if he doesn't change,he'll listen. If he doesn't listen and shows you no love move on before it gets worse. Be the best Mom you can be to your child.











Good Luck
You fill your heart with air and just walk away! i really mean it.. Oh and listen to the song ';walk away'; by kelly and you'll see what i mean, you don't need him to be happy...